11.18.2010

The Ultimate Secret to Satisfaction and Happiness.

I’m just going to be me.

I am tired of being the person that you think I should be. I’m just going to be the best “me” possible.

And isn’t that what you really want from me?

Isn’t it?

We just need to get past all of our pre-programmed crazy thinking.

We all have a sense about how the world should work. Right?

The little spoon goes to the left of the big spoon. The smart kid goes on to be the most successful person in the class. If you work really hard then you end up having all the best parts of the “American Dream.”

But if you think about it, you didn’t come up with that idea. In fact, you don’t even know the person who came up with those ideas. And yet for some reason we accept them as fact.

But they aren’t facts. They aren’t.

And that changes everything.

It means that everything you know about what you should be is now wrong. The slate is clean. You’re back to square one.

Ohh… and by the way, the people around you aren’t any better qualified than you to start putting plays on the chalkboard.  They are the same goofy nuts who laughed at the same immature jokes that you did in high school.

Sure they look all sophisticated and “put together”. They look like people whose opinions should matter.

But here’s the reality.

Their opinions don’t matter.

Not one little bit.

They just don’t matter.

You do.

You matter.

You’re not a moron. In fact, you know more than you think you do.

Sure you’re prone to get turned 37 different directions after listening to all the critics.

But we all do.

We all second guess our motivations, intensions, and strategies. Sometimes we do it out-loud.

Most of the time, we keep that in our heads.

And that’s even more dangerous. Because the monsters in that playground are even more dangerous.

So how can you be satisfied?

Here is the secret to ultimate satisfaction: “Stop doing and start being…”

Be the best “you” possible.

And only you really knows the full potential of what that could be.

It’s bigger than you have ever imagined. It’s more successful than the critics would ever give your credit for.

Some people will love you. The rest will still think you’re a loser.

Either way, you won’t really care. You’re too busy being the best you possible.

And there is something ultimately satisfying about being all you can be.

About being the best “you” anywhere.

This post was originally written (a while ago) for the Motivation 101 blog in a slightly different format.  I re-read it, got inspired, and thought you might enjoy…


  • Leanne Hoagland-Smith

    Ah, life comes full circle from a young child who knows nothing else to an experienced adult who now understands the greatness of youth – being who you are. However, that does take time because your experiences change you and you are in a constant state of disequilibrium (Piaget). So Dan welcome to We Who Are Comfortable in Our Own Skins – Damn the torpedoes, full steam ahead! – Leanne Hoagland-Smith, author of Be the Red Jacket in a Sea of Gray Suits

  • Leanne Hoagland-Smith

    Ah, life comes full circle from a young child who knows nothing else to an experienced adult who now understands the greatness of youth – being who you are. However, that does take time because your experiences change you and you are in a constant state of disequilibrium (Piaget). So Dan welcome to We Who Are Comfortable in Our Own Skins – Damn the torpedoes, full steam ahead! – Leanne Hoagland-Smith, author of Be the Red Jacket in a Sea of Gray Suits

    • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

      Leanne,

      Great observations. You are right that life is series of lessons. Ultimately, you become who you are and the transition is something that you need to enjoy…

      Dan

      p.s. Love the “Damn the torpedoes…” line

  • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

    Leanne,

    Great observations. You are right that life is series of lessons. Ultimately, you become who you are and the transition is something that you need to enjoy…

    Dan

    p.s. Love the “Damn the torpedoes…” line

  • Inc Financial

    Great post, I agree, forget about IQ and soak up all the knowledge you can while you are still here on planet earth. Then take action upon that and stop listening to negative inputs and skip those pre-programmed thoughts about smart kids finishing first.

    Your blog is truly the real deal, it’s damn rare to see a blog so well thought out and written with a fantastic voice. I even had to put up a link on my blog to yours truly. :)

  • Inc Financial

    Great post, I agree, forget about IQ and soak up all the knowledge you can while you are still here on planet earth. Then take action upon that and stop listening to negative inputs and skip those pre-programmed thoughts about smart kids finishing first.

    Your blog is truly the real deal, it’s damn rare to see a blog so well thought out and written with a fantastic voice. I even had to put up a link on my blog to yours truly. :)

    • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

      Thanks for the kind words.

      You got it right — you have to ditch all that “common sense” and open your mind to the possibility of outrageous opportunity.

      Dan

  • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

    Thanks for the kind words.

    You got it right — you have to ditch all that “common sense” and open your mind to the possibility of outrageous opportunity.

    Dan

  • Anonymous

    Thank you , Dan!
    I struggle to subscribe to the notion “everything you know about what you should be is now wrong” in such a categorical absolute way. However, it is a fact that we should consistently question and re-evaluate these “facts” if they are (still) valid as our environment constantly changes.
    In addition, other people’s opinion does matter if it is important to you. The challenge is that we may take too many people’s opinion as being important.
    That said, I certainly agree with the fact we should strive to be the best we can be, to develop and live into our potential and treasure every win along the way. Focus on the strength and excelling in our strength is is ultimately rewarding and makes potential limitations become less important.
    Great article – not that my opinion would count for anything…
    Manfred
    http://www.qli-international.com

  • Anonymous

    Thank you , Dan!
    I struggle to subscribe to the notion “everything you know about what you should be is now wrong” in such a categorical absolute way. However, it is a fact that we should consistently question and re-evaluate these “facts” if they are (still) valid as our environment constantly changes.
    In addition, other people’s opinion does matter if it is important to you. The challenge is that we may take too many people’s opinion as being important.
    That said, I certainly agree with the fact we should strive to be the best we can be, to develop and live into our potential and treasure every win along the way. Focus on the strength and excelling in our strength is is ultimately rewarding and makes potential limitations become less important.
    Great article – not that my opinion would count for anything…
    Manfred
    http://www.qli-international.com

    • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

      Manfred,

      You bring up a great point. Perhaps a better way to think about this is “everything you know MIGHT be wrong”. And if it everything “might” be wrong, then everything needs to be re-examined.

      Nothing can be accepted as “fact”.

      And if nothing is “right”, can’t we assume that that makes it all “wrong”?

      Dan

      p.s. Thanks for the sharing your opinion. That’s all I try to do…

  • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

    Manfred,

    You bring up a great point. Perhaps a better way to think about this is “everything you know MIGHT be wrong”. And if it everything “might” be wrong, then everything needs to be re-examined.

    Nothing can be accepted as “fact”.

    And if nothing is “right”, can’t we assume that that makes it all “wrong”?

    Dan

    p.s. Thanks for the sharing your opinion. That’s all I try to do…

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