5.31.2012

You’re not a Leader. You’re Just A Bully.

Just because you’re the leader doesn’t mean you can push people around.

“Because I said so” isn’t a phrase that should be in your vocabulary. Your employees know that you’re the boss. You probably even have a name tag on your desk that says so.

That’s not how you inspire greatness.

No one likes a bully.

Especially when that bully also happens to be the boss.

What is often labeled “strong leadership” is really nothing more than bullying. There is nothing inspiring about it.

Instead of caring about employees. Instead of leading by example. Instead of creating an audacious mission. Instead of all that, it can just seem easier to shout and scream and fire — and hope you scare enough of the team into doing something that leads to revenue creation.

But the results are always disastrous.

Your bullying behavior stifles creativity and ultimately undermines what you actually think is important  – growing your business.  Short and simple – bullying is the direct opposite of growth. It is everything that growth isn’t.

  • Bullying punishes failure. Growth rewards smart risk-taking.
  • Bullying creates humiliation. Growth is the result of teamsmanship.
  • Bullying demands respect. Growth comes from giving respect.
  • Bullying is rooted in fear. The foundation of growth is confidence.

Frankly, bullying is easy to do.

Many times, it is a natural reaction when you are threatened as a leader.

But that doesn’t make it right.

You do have the option as boss to make what you say the last word. You can stomp and stammer and make everyone else around you feel like an idiot.

But remember, nothing brilliant has ever come about from bullying. No creative artwork. No transformational invention. No world movement.

Bullying can’t do the things that really matter. It can’t inspire, support, or empower those around you to help you change the world.

Think about that the next time you feel threatened as a leader.

Are you a bully?


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  • http://twitter.com/capturehits CaptureHits

    Outstanding article.  Far too often you see leaders abuse power not realizing the significant cost that will place on the company.  High employee turn-over, lack of productivity, poor feedback/communication, fear of failure, etc.  Micro-management is another form of workplace “bullying”.  If you’ve got the right people in the right place let them do their job.  

  • http://www.facebook.com/rick.maurer2 Rick Maurer

    Dan – I agree with your comments about the negative power of bullying. The sad thing is that I doubt that many bullies will read your post and see themselves.  (I would love to be wrong about that though.)

    For my book Why Don’t You Want What I Want? Bard Press 2002), I studied people who seemed to be consistently good at getting their ideas across. I’m sure that you aren’t at all surprised that bullying behaviors didn’t make it on that list. A couple of the principles I identified that are particularly hard for bullies:

    The Right Intention. The intent that seems to work best is one in which you want to get your idea across in a way that respects and supports the aspirations of the people you are trying to influence.

    Avoid Knee-Jerk Reaction. This one could help those bullies who might see themselves in your post. Knee-jerks are those things we say or do without thinking that often makes matters worse. Bullies tend to be oblivious to their bull-in-a-china-shop actions.

    • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

      Great remarks, Rick.  Fantastic insights…

      Dan

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