3.20.2013

3 Simple Conversations That Will Change The Rest Of Your Life.

Conversations consume most of your life.

Besides sleeping and eating, everything else is a conversation. Conversations with yourself. Conversations with your family and friends.  Conversations with peers and coworkers.

You’re taught to choose your conversations carefully — knowing the power that words bring to any situation.

The right conversation is transformational.

The right conversation can inspire a tired army to conquer for one more day. The right conversation can bring hope and happiness to a sick and suffering patient. The right conversation can turn enemies into friends, collaborators, and fellow conquerors.

Any situation, no matter how bad it might appear at first, can be  remedied with the right conversation.  So being a master of that right conversation is an invaluable skill to have.  Without it, you find yourself alienating advocates and burning bridges.

If you’re going to be successful in life, there are three important conversations you need to master.

1. “Thank You…”

Gratitude enables tremendous potential in all those who experience its impact.

Being thankful enables you to see opportunities that others don’t see. When you’re thankful you are more likely to be honest, work harder, and collaborate at a level that makes you a prized asset in any situation.

If you find yourself acting passive aggressive you know that you need to work on being more thankful.

Like any habit, gratitude is an attitude formed deliberately. It doesn’t happen automatically (or magically); gratitude occurs when you intentionally take time to pause and remind yourself of all the good in your life —  even if your current situation might not seem all that amazing.

2. “I’m Sorry…”

The single biggest reason that friendships become fractured and potential gets wasted is a lack of humility when something unexpected and negative occurs.

If you can learn to apologize, you stand to prevail over a lifetime of impossible obstacles. A simple heartfelt apology instantly mends what no other amount of explanation can fix. Your whole being wants to factor and frame and finesse; so it is memorable when you can simply pause and take responsibility for your actions.

An unqualified apology. No excuses. No promises. Just an genuine recognition that things didn’t go the way you intended.  That’s the secret to fixing bad situations.

3. “Why”?

Curiosity is the quickest gateway to breakthrough. It stems from dissatisfaction with your current situation.  And builds on your anticipation for how things could be.

There’s nothing wrong with questioning everything. You might annoy those around you sometimes; but let’s be frank —  it’s your life to live. Your success to attain. So be curious. Ask the hard questions. Don’t accept easy explanations, even though that is what comes easiest.

It’s all too easy to just shake your head and nod, pretending like you know what’s going on — all the while hoping that no one figures out that you don’t have a clue.  And that’s just silly. And damaging.

Don’t hesitate to ask questions like:  “What makes you say that?” The answers you’ll get will surprise not only you but everyone else around you pretending like they have it all together too.

Conversations are your lifeline to breakthrough.

The right conversation can turn the odds in your favor and build the added momentum you need to push you past the obstacles in your way.

The right conversation can literally change the rest of your life.

Sometimes that conversation is just a few right words bravely spoken.

How would your life change with a better conversation?


  • info williamlewis.se

    Dan, Birgitta or ”Gittan” as she is called, an artist collige said to me a few years ago, excellent everybody has your art, everybody. Yes, I said. they’ve stolen it. What difference dose that make. She said. Everybody has something of you. It took a moment or two for this to sink in and i knew my friend would willingly have changed places there and then. It has always been me, i’m the problem. I have broken more people than i care to remember, some up close, it can take time, years sometimes but im persistant. I can cut stainless steel with my tung.

    When the domino’s start to fall everybody wants to get in on the act. As the pieces lay there and the big guy that pushed ‘em stands there with an uneasy smile on his face the pieces start to disappear and soon they are gone. Now the game plan is different and battles must be fought on fronts which before were nutrall ( never friendly). So as not to sound victimized, I have enjoyed fighting battles, playing my game, always telling the competition ( for want of a better word) my game plans. Make ‘em laugh, make ‘em laugh make ‘em laugh. You will be discounted, an excellent position for guerrilla activity. I dont losing with grace, so dont lose.

    That’s where i’am today.

    Two years ago i began noticing a change, a distinct change but slow, Twenty words at a time is what i could see and i wrote 20,000 words sometime 2000 a day on my mobile phone. I cant spell my own name so this was fascinating and wonderful finally i could express taught and feeling in words something i have always longed for and as usual i have being planning for this all my life. Everything is a plan i’m never disappointed and always successful. You see it’s not mine, i didn’t ask for it and i dont know where it comes from. I’am eternally grateful for all who have dared to take a chance on me too say paint a mural or build a fountain in bronze or whatever the case maybe, how could i not be.

    Again, finally on the third of July i cut two toes off in an accident with a lawn more. In the middle of nowhere without an address or proppar telephone network and from one thing to another here i’am one lucky sob.

  • http://www.gauraw.com/ Kumar Gauraw

    Dan,
    Absolutely amazing! These are simple terms, we all know, we all hear, we all use. But the way you have put it here, is just superb!
    Our lives can change for good or bad depending on how we communicate and how we carry out our conversation with other people around us. Sure, it impacts all of us. Thank you for sharing!

    • http://www.DanWaldschmidt.com/ Dan Waldschmidt

      Thanks, Kumar. I appreciate your kind words.

      Communication is really important. It ultimately drives our long term success.

      Thanks for sharing… Come on back again, OK?

      Dan

      • http://www.gauraw.com/ Kumar Gauraw

        Okay Dan. I will. Thank you for sharing and the response!

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