We’re all a little bit screwed up in the head.  Most of the time we’re good at keeping that a secret, but every once in a while it pops out — destroying everything in our way at the moment.

It could be the middle of a sales pitch or just one more annoying conversation with the wrong person — you find yourself melting down.

Angry, frustrated, and a little confused at how you got there.

The truth is that if you aren’t proactively battling your demons, you’re sure to fall prey to their ill effects when you can least afford it.

Here’s how you do that:

  1. Get some help (and get some more). – We all need somebody.  Get a coach.  Hire a therapist.  Find new friends.  Look — you can’t always fix you on your own.  That’s why you need honest, kind feedback from those looking into your habits.  Your friends will usually have your back, but you need people you are trained to help make a better “you”. Get them in your life.  Keep them there.
  2. Get physical and do it regularly. – Nothing cures stress, panic, and fear like getting physical.  Take a walk and think.  Go to the gym and break a sweat.  Hit a punching bag.  You need to fire up the parts of your brain that fight fear.  You can only do that by moving around.  So do that regularly.  Take time out of your busy schedule to de-stress.  It pays off.
  3. Get your finances fixed and keep them that way. – Want to go insane on a schedule?  Spend way too much too often.  Not enough money, by your own mismanagement, is a guaranteed way to force your mind into all the worst of contortions.  You put your brain into fight-or-flight mode by spending money poorly.  It feels like you might not survive.
  4. Get big problems squashed while they are small. – Be proactive.  Big time.  Adapt and change when your conscience sends you those “uhh ohh” signals.  Most of the time you know when something isn’t right — when you are headed in the wrong direction.  Instead of shrugging off those signals, make changes.  It’s a heck of a lot easier when things are small.
  5. Get moving towards where you want to be. – Big goals start with small steps.  A lot of small steps each days.  Don’t think about the degrees you need or the money you’ll want to make.  Just take the first step — no matter how small and unimportant it might seem.  Even if where you are right now isn’t fun, you’ll gain momentum (and inspiration) from your courageous activity.
  6. Get more skills and (constantly) learn what you don’t know. – A lot of the time, experience is what you get just after you need it.  But if you keep learning and adding new skills, you’ll have all the experience you need to be confident in “you”.  Nothing seems unreachable if you think you know everything you need to know about where you want go.

Don’t be afraid of “you”.

You don’t need to worry about what could happen or when.

Be proactive.  Be belligerent about building a better “you”.  Instead of shrugging off problems, worries, and fears, be deliberate about fixing what is broken.

You’ll always be a little bit nutty.  But you’ll be control of you.  And that changes the game in your favor.

It makes you a winner.