You are where you are right now because of what you’ve done.

Not because of chance or luck or coincidence. Not because of cosmic revenge or life being disproportionately unfair to you.

We often like to think of life as if we’re bystanders to the action. Peering in on what happens to us. Commenting about the saga as it unfolds.

But life isn’t like that.

You’re in the game whether you want to be or not.

The choices you’ve made (or not made) have put you where you are right now. And while that might be uncomfortable to hear — unpalatable to accept — believing that is the key to getting to where you want to be.

If you’re going to change your circumstances, you have to believe that you can actually change “you”. Its not good enough to say the words or cheer with everyone else at a motivational rally, you have to believe in your soul that you have the ability to change your circumstances.

All on your own. By yourself. By making the right decisions. You have to own your destiny.

That starts by owning the decisions you make each day.

Each decision. Each choice you think or say or do. Each choice is yours. Owned by you.

That’s the beginning of what comes next. That’s where you can change your future.

The struggle that follows is a challenge of massive proportion and pain. It requires dedication and bulldogged determination. You’re going to get hurt and lose friends and have to make hard choices.

So it only makes sense that you own that process.

You aren’t a bystander. You are in the game. Fighting for your life. Fighting for what you want for you. And the glory that follows is a result of the guts you have right now.

You’ve made the bed you’re sleeping in. Maybe it’s time to change the sheets.