Everything you’ve ever wanted to achieve could be within your grasp.
It might not be at your fingertips right now — but it could be soon. As long as you’re willing to keep growing. And going.
Here’s the truth about being successful — it hurts like hell along the way.
I’m not sure when we started romanticizing “the struggle”, but let’s be honest. The struggle sucks.
You already know that. But you might have bought into the crazy notion that you should enjoy what you’re doing.
You are not going to love what you are doing all the time. Or even most of the time. It’s hard work. It’s uncomfortable. It’s frustrating.
Yet, you’ve read books that quote famous people like Steve Jobs telling you that “if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life.”
If you love what you do, you’ll work every minute of your life.
It probably won’t be a job or someone else paying you an hourly wage. It might not even be a company that you own. But you will be working. And it will suck sometimes.
Which is why most people quit. They’ve bought into the notion that success should be fun and automatic. Something that you wake up delighted to do.
Something so all-consuming that you don’t want to sleep because you’re so driven to keep going.
Again — that’s just crazy talk. So let’s talk about what success is really all about.
- It’s about you making the choice to spend 15 minutes meditating even though you’re already 3 hours behind on your list of chores to accomplish today.
- It’s about you saying “NO” to something that seems like fun because you need to spend that time getting things done.
- It’s about making time to read books that round out your rough edges, even when it’s easier to watch your favorite show on Hulu or Netflix and just forget about the world around you.
- It’s about getting up and going to work a few hours after you stopped working, when you’re still so tired you’re not even sure anything you do will be productive.
If you want more money, you can get that. If you want more fame, you can achieve that. If you want more love in your life, you can have that.
But to pull that off you’re going to have to protect every little part of your existence.
You’re going to have to be the champion of your daily schedule and massively deliberate about what you allow yourself to think about.
It’s up to you.
Sure — other people have opinions. And some of those people even care about you. But they aren’t you.
You’re the one who has to call the shots. You’re the one who has to do the hard things.
So start by being wildly accountable. Be accountable to yourself. Own the fact that it’s your destiny. And 100% your choice.
Everything you don’t do or do is your decision to make.
If that’s not something you strongly believe right now, you’re not on the path to being successful. You’re not even close.
Once you have decided to be accountable for all of you, be deliberate about growing.
- Grow your finance game.
- Grow your business game.
- Grow your emotions games
- Grow your relationships game.
And the best way to do that is by developing two valuable habits — always be reading and level up your relationships.
You’ve heard it said before that leaders are readers. Let’s make it a little more clear — winners read. High performers read great books.
They read research that makes them better. They read criticism, critiques, strategy, and a little bit of anything and everything that allows them to play their game at a higher level.
Think about it. The power of reading is that someone spent years taking everything you could ever want to know about a specific topic and put it into a few hundred pages that you can consume in a half-day of reading.
How magical is that? You don’t have to spend years researching or figuring out the facts. You get to consume it.
And yet, there’s always a good excuse why that isn’t happening. Always a good reason why instead of growing you choose to be entertained.
Is it any wonder then that you aren’t where you want to be. Probably not, right?
But success isn’t just about reading. It’s about relationships.
- Mediocre people spend time with people who are just like them.
- Good people spend time with good people.
- Great people spend time with greater people.
In other words, they surround themselves with people who have a higher perspective of where they want to be.
After all, they’ve already been there. They’ve done it. Just being around them will make you stronger and faster and better — in countless ways.
And today, it is easier to do than ever. Your idol is probably on Facebook. Maybe in a networking group. They are probably speaking at a conference that you can buy a ticket to.
Maybe they have their own community that you can join. They might even offer you some exclusive mentoring.
Whatever you do, don’t get sucked into the trap of hanging around people who are only as good as you are.
The only thing that will do is make you feel better about yourself. And, unless that’s what you call success, you’re going to be sorely disappointed when you keep failing.
It’s about getting a higher perspective than your own.
That’s where your growth begins to accelerate. That’s when you notice that all of your hard work begins to pay off. When your outcomes show that you are getting closer to where you want to be.
Reading. And relationships. It’s what works.
Just don’t forget that being uncomfortable is part of the journey.
Without the struggle, there is no butterfly — just damp wings and a spoiled cocoon.
Take the time to embrace the power of your decisions. Don’t avoid the hard things — claim them as your superpower.