It’s easy to forget all the things you promised yourself you would do. Those New Year’s resolutions. Those commitments.
You worry about making everybody else feel happy and secure.
Making sure your family has enough money. Making sure your kids get slick clothes and a great education.
And those aren’t bad goals. They are absolutely awesome goals.
But the truth is, if you abandon yourself, you will only find yourself feeling hollow. Empty. Sad. And depressed.
So take a moment to stop and focus on you for a moment. Commit to your long-term health. And happiness.
In a few simple, but powerful, ways:
1. Cut Yourself Some Slack
In the famous words of Theodor Geisel, “You are youer than you, that is truer than true, there is no one alive that is youer than you.”
Yes, that is Dr. Suess, and yes, it was originally written for kids. That doesn’t make it any less true.
Stop comparing yourself to others and cut yourself some slack. You have skills and talents no other person around you has. Give yourself credit for being awesome in those areas and stop trying to be everything to everyone.
Not only will it never happen, but you will exhaust yourself in the process.
2. Never Give Up on Your Dreams
Maybe your breakthrough hasn’t happened yet. That doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel. After all, if you do, what next? What will you do if your dream doesn’t happen?
Can you be happy doing any other thing? If that answer is no, then you are not ready to give up on your dream yet.
Maybe it’s time to take a new approach, maybe it’s time to look at it with fresh eyes, maybe it’s time to hire a professional advisor. Whatever decision you decide to make, do not give up on your dreams just yet.
Commit to seeing them through.
3. Don’t Give in to Discouragement
Stuff happens. Bad stuff happens. That doesn’t mean you should give in to the discouragement you feel.
Getting discouraged and deciding to quit won’t make bad stuff not happen. Getting discouraged enough to quit has never helped anyone succeed.
“STOP LOOKING AT THE GRASS OVER THERE AND PUT SOME FERTILIZER AND WATER ON YOUR OWN.”
Stop comparing your life to other people and just do your thing. Carry on.
4. Accept Responsibility for Your Life
Everything that happens to you, happens to you. It doesn’t happen to all of those around you.
Accept what is going on around you. If you can make subtle changes to make it less painful, do that. But if your struggle is just a part of your journey, accept that and do what must be done to keep trudging forward.
Nobody else is going to accept responsibility for your life. It’s best if you do that for you.
5. Always Know Your Worth
As cliche as it may sound, sometimes in business and in life you are so worried about “closing the deal” or “getting the girl” that you settle — or agree to do things that go against your moral fiber.
Things that just don’t sit quite right with you.
Keep in mind that you should always stick to your guns when it comes to knowing your worth. If not this deal, then the next. And if not that one, the next.
There will always be another time, another investor, another lover that will see what you are offering and realize it has value.
Don’t sell yourself short.
6. Continue Educating Yourself
The biggest lie you can tell yourself is that you have already learned it all — and you will be doing yourself a disservice if you keep that way of thinking.
Whether it is reading a book a month or taking a class two times a week to get a new certification, continuing to educate yourself is one of the key factors in staying committed to your goals — both long and short-term.
Not to mention, learning new ideas and strategies is a great conversation starter at a networking event.
“THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IN LIFE IS TO MAKE YOURSELF BELIEVE THERE IS NOTHING LEFT FOR YOU TO LEARN.”
7. Be Compassionate
It doesn’t matter what field you are in or what career path you have chosen, being compassionate equates to being a great leader.
People want to look to someone they trust. Someone who looks at things from many perspectives, not just their own.
So when you bring a compassionate mindset to your family or to your business, you are setting the tone for people to want to come to you for help, for advice, or to admit when something has gone wrong.
There is nothing worse than trying to fix a mistake after it has been swept under five rugs. And be compassionate and forgiving with yourself too.
8. Stand Up for Yourself
If you stay silent on the outside when you are screaming on the inside for justice, you will never be heard.
When you let someone pass you up for the promotion or you let the lead project management job go to the new guy instead without saying anything, you are inevitably training people in all the ways in which they can treat you.
Commit to standing up for yourself. Even if you haven’t done it before now. It’s absolutely possible to let people know you are done sitting back and rolling with the punches.
Your future will thank you for it.
9. Stop Sabotaging Yourself
You say you want to be successful, but then you find a hundred reasons to not wake up an extra fifteen minutes early. Or you can’t find the time to return important phone calls or answer important emails. Or you can’t find the money to hire the advisor.
You are sabotaging yourself and there are more ways that you are doing it (that you can read here). But the most important thing is that you just stop doing it.
You know you are meant for something greater. You feel like your ideal success is right around the corner. So quit making excuses and go grab it!
Success is waiting for you to commit. So do that and stop with the self-sabotage.
10. Trust Your Gut
In order to be a good leader, you have to be innovative, think outside of the box, and find new and exciting ideas that work.
And then you have to be sure that they will, in fact, work. That’s where trusting your gut comes into play. You’ve done a few things. Things that have shaped who you are, how you think, where you spend your money.
When you are really successful at closing a deal that thrives, it is because you trusted your gut. And when a deal falls through, there’s a high likelihood it’s because you didn’t.
So commit to trusting your gut more.
11. Appreciate What You Have Now
Sure, any of us would all love to have $50 million to play around with.
When you think about it, the idea of all the things you could do swirl around in that imaginative brain of yours. And one day, it may be a reality. But if it’s not your reality right now, don’t let that bog you down.
Commit to appreciating what you have now. You’re doing the best you can. It will get better. Being grateful seems to have a way of bringing more things into our lives to be grateful for.
“COMMIT TO YOUR PERSONAL COMMITMENTS.”
It’s the least you should do — whether in business or in your personal life.
When you can follow through with commitments to yourself, it makes it easier to follow through with commitments to others.
Stay with you. Let it bubble out of you onto everyone else around you.