Most of us are willing to do almost anything in order to realize our goals. We will turn over any stone, cross any bridge, and scale the highest metaphorical mountains in order to achieve success.
Or at least that’s how we talk about.
We’re quick to talk about how disciplined we are. How motivated we keep ourselves. How “on point” and energized we are.
But discipline isn’t just about doing more things. That’s the beginner’s version of discipline. If you haven’t mastered the doing part of discipline then you aren’t even close to achieving success. You’re just lying to yourself.
The unspoken part of this conversation is about the denying part of discipline. Discipline isn’t so much about what you are doing right now as it is about what you are denying yourself right now.
- Denying yourself the need to look like you are right all the time.
- Denying yourself the satisfaction of being recognized as the leader.
- Denying yourself the comfort of not needing to worry about your future.
- Denying yourself the rewards of getting what you want right now.
- Denying yourself the illusion that no one is better than you.
- Denying yourself the luxury of getting it right the first time.
- Denying yourself the urge to be the victim and accept pity from others around you.
These are incredibly hard things to do. Even harder to do consistently.
But denying is what discipline is all about.
It is about what you stop yourself from doing. It is planned. It is expected.
You aren’t hoping that you don’t develop bad habits, you are working actively to stop yourself as you see bad habits emerging.
This thinking sets a new standard in discipline. And begs further question: “Why aren’t you living in a state of denial?”
What a difference it makes when you are desperate to be successful.
Are you that desperate?