Do you need more autonomy? Or do you just need more self-confidence to listen to the opinions of management without feeling criticized? Do you need to make more money? Or do you just need to make better decisions about how you spend the money you make right now?
Do you need to be understood? Or do you need to take the time to empathize with the opinions of others?
Do you need more time? Or do you need to use better tools to keep you accountable for how you spend your time and how you prioritize your day?
Do you need better friends? Or do you need to be a better friend?
Do you need a “chance”? Or do you need to work like a maniac to overcome the obstacles that are in your way right now?
What do you need?
It’s a question that drives all of us. The reality is that what you need might be what is already in front of you.
It might be that the difference between your needs, your wants, and the resources you have to achieve what you want for yourself is separated only by your perspective. By how you view the world around you. By how you view people who disagree with you.
What you might need is a new perspective.
That means being emotionally intelligent enough to appreciate and tolerate the views of others, even when you disagree violently with them. A different view on the world enables you to figure out for yourself what you really need.
Not what others tell you you should want.