Just Be Disappointed.

You don’t have to be that old before you realize that the world can be a cruel place.
The smartest people don’t always get the best results.  The best employees don’t always get promoted and the pay raise.  You can go to college and graduate top of your class and still struggle to find a job that pays your bills.

Despite all your planning and prowess there are many things that will always be outside your control .  You just can’t demand fairness and it is so. It’s the same with validation or kindness or a “second chance”  Sometimes you won’t get what you want.

You’re going to be disappointed.

And not just once in a while.  It can seem like a way of life.

Day after day.   You pay your dues, put in the effort, and still get screwed over — by a HR execs who won’t hire you, by a CEO who doesn’t believe in your vision, by a family that doesn’t understand why you can’t be home when you want to be.

It can wear on you.  Wear on your soul.

You start getting cynical and passive agressive.  You stop putting in the extra effort.  You question anyone who might have good intentions.  You give up in the inside.

And you don’t need to.

It’s OK to be disappointed.

In fact, it might be a lifesaver. A dream saver actually.

You can deal with disappointment without letting it cripple your ability to take bold risks.  You just have to think about the experience differently.

Instead of focusing on the lack of fairness and trying to figure out “why these things always happen to you”, look for what’s positive  — what pragmatic lessons you can take away from the situation  They are always there.  Right below the surface.

Was your message right, but the timing wrong?  Did you deliver the wrong message to the right person?  What is one thing you could do better next time?

Something begins to happen when you start thinking like that .

Disappointment becomes your fuel.

It hurts just the same.  But the pain goes away a lot faster.  Instead of dwelling on the agony of the moment, you are working on making sure it doesn’t happen that way ever again.

There are things that you can’t control.

Your attitude and intentions aren’t on that list.

Which is why you just need to be disappointed.

Disappointed by what you can’t change.  Energized by your personal decision to do something about it.

 

0 Replies to “Just Be Disappointed.”

  1. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  2. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  3. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  4. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  5. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  6. Hey Dan,

    Wish you are doing well. As always a great inspiration. And definitely Edgy too. Original. Authentic. A read full of Pain & Hope. Cruelty & Kindness. In addition, as you say that you can. Ok I know this, I know that, I very well can, I know, I certainly attempt, but, & that’s a BIG BUT, what if one, inspite of trying very hard & the best with dedication & honest efforts can’t, only because of being a Victim of Evils & that too for 12 years ? The How along with the rest is gonna be in my Book, which I guarantee you will be shocked that such things happen to innocents such as me & also that who are these Evils.Can you think of some comforting & inspiring answer my friend with your wisdom, for me to live on in the meantime, while every day I wake up & gather myself & preparing & telling myself, well knowing that this is my another day of getting victimized & still I have to live. And try. And try. Till I defeat these Evils & get Justice ?
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

    1. Baiju,

      I love you dude but you have to stop with the excuses. Life is tough for all of us — in the most inconceivably unfair of ways. Betrayal. Cruelty. Infidelity. It happens. You are only a victim in your head.

      At some point you have to let it wash over you and stand back up. Is it tough? Damn straight it is. But you have a mission other than wallowing in misery and self-obsession. You can’t pout and be amazing at the same time.

      So you’re hurt. So what? Are you the only one who has ever been hurt? Are you alone in your pain?

      My friend, destiny is not found the glitter of fairness or opportunity but in the determination of a weary soul determined to make a difference in an unfair world.

      Your calling is to overcome. To endure. To sacrifice. To rejoice that you are strong enough to find success in spite of the obstacles ahead of you.

      Dan

  7. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  8. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  9. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  10. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  11. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  12. Brilliant!

    My favorite coach used to say “All things are working in my favor.” She lived by this philosophy. Which is GREAT, but when you learn that SHE had Lou Gehrig’s Disease AND this attitude, it becomes amazing!

    By the end of her life, she was coaching me using big handwritten letters, broad gestures, and an enthusiasm for making a difference.

    It was infectious! Her projects are living on and thriving in the world and continuing to make a big difference for people.

    All things WERE working in her favor. Because she said so!

    Love your Life UP!

  13. Keep your eyes on the road ahead and look through the windshield instead of staring in the rearview mirrors – as tough as it can be sometimes.

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  18. Keep your eyes on the road ahead and look through the windshield instead of staring in the rearview mirrors – as tough as it can be sometimes.

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    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

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    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

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    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

  22. Hello Dan, Read about the deadly storm in DC & Virginia areas. How are you doing ?Hope & wish everything is fine with you.
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

  23. Hello Dan, Read about the deadly storm in DC & Virginia areas. How are you doing ?Hope & wish everything is fine with you.
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

  24. Hello Dan, Read about the deadly storm in DC & Virginia areas. How are you doing ?Hope & wish everything is fine with you.
    Best Regards & Wishes,
    Baiju.

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