What it Really Costs to Be Successful.

It’s not easy to achieve success.  It doesn’t matter what you call success, it’s hard to pull off.
It might be making your first million dollars or growing you business past a billion dollars.  Heck, it might be just finding a job that will pay you for your skills.

Make no mistake — achieving success is not for the faint of heart.

Achieving success costs you a lot.  Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life.  Friendships.

You have to be willing to do what very few others are willing to do. Day after day after day after day.

There is no backing down.  Just a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.

And that’s usually too costly a price to pay.

That’s not something that we are willing to put ourselves through.

So we back down.  Gracefully.  With a socially acceptable excuse.

  • We get a college degree instead of continuing to learn from our mistakes and moving forward.
  • We pay for “7 step guaranteed success webinars” instead of paying forward effort needed to get things done.

It’s just too much.  It hurts too bad to be amazing.

And no one is talking about that.  No one is talking about the fact that we are too weak and fearful and scared to fight for our own success.  We aren’t willing to pay the price to be successful.

And it makes the difference in being amazing.

In not being amazing.

So let’s get really clear.  It does no one any good to be confused about the matter.  The truth is that the cost to be successful is high.

You’ll hurt worse than you ever thought you could.

Looking back you’ll be amazed at what you were willing to endure.

But if you can decide to pay the price, you’ll end up with a reward that is greater than you could have ever imagined.

You’ll achieve more than you thought possible,

You’ll become the type of person that you used to idoloize.

You’ll be the hero you always wanted to be.

And so you have to ask yourself: “What are you willing to pay for that?”

0 Replies to “What it Really Costs to Be Successful.”

  1. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  2. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  3. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  4. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  5. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  6. It’s cause people (me included) are looking for that magic “bean” that will solve all our problems and “finally make me successful.” I had a scary moment recently where I realized I was only two letters away from my wildest dreams: M-E. It was exciting too though 🙂

    Your point about college education is awesome because i’ve seen that in my own life and now I can see that in others too. Very interesting for sure.

    1. I have really “soured” on the idea of a college degree. Over the last decade dozens of quick degrees have popped up that allow people to put a few initials after their name. That’s not the same as “being amazing”…

      Dan

  7. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  8. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  9. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  10. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  11. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  12. It would be easy for me to say, “Whatever it takes.” I’ve already paid the cost in failed relationships, broken friendships, precarious financial prospects. And, when I look back, I realize the relationships were doomed, the friends weren’t genuine, and I survived the financial potholes and continue to move forward.

    I recently read an article about how the most successful CEO’s are amoral. There is validity to that and it doesn’t mean they’ve sacrificed their morals.

    But…
    There is a line I won’t cross. My good reputation, principles, integrity are of paramount importance and I won’t do anything to jeopardize those.

    1. Lydia,

      Keep working hard. We all need guidelines to keep us headed in the right direction. You can call that morals or religion or a sense of destiny. You need to be focused on making a difference. (And I know you are)

      Dan

  13. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  14. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  15. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  16. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  17. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  18. “…a relentless obsession on achieving outrageous results.” Love it. Thank you for reminding me where to hold my focus.

  19. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

  20. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

  21. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

  22. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

  23. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

  24. Your post strikes a chord … but for the “wrong” reasons. Every individual is unique. How can you classify someone as a success who has gained the world, but lost out on “Your family life. Having fun. Years of your life. Friendships.”
    At the end of the day, what is the meaning, having achieved amazement while standing on carcasses left in your wake? Carcasses like damaged children who will outlive you. What kind of success is that.

    I’m all for the Sufi philosophy which proposes that we all become something bigger than what we’re capable of. But there is a balance. And internally each of us know where the calibrated reset is.

    The price of success may not be worth it … ask any athlete who has stood on the podium and experienced the short-term euphoria of victory on the back of sacrifices ito effort put in and/or performance enhancement substances. By your measure they’ve achieved amazing results.

    Someone, again who by your measure may not have measured up, may end up being a father or mother of a giant in the next generation. Was their life a success?

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