No one likes to fail. Whether it’s professional goals or personal goals, no one likes to try hard and come up short. It sucks to apply for a job that you never get. It hurts to get told “I don’t think so” when you ask for that second date.
Right? It’s not fun. Not the slightest bit enjoyable, even if you try to categorize it as a “learning experience”.
Failure is deeply personal.
It can be crippling if you aren’t careful.
There are two specific ways that it affects you:
- You stop trying to do amazing things so that you don’t run the risk of failing.
- You pretend like everything is OK and don’t learn from the experience.
While both are damaging, the second one problem — not learning from failure — is the one that we most often revert back to when we feel discouraged. That’s probably because we fail to see the experience as it really is.
The irony of failure is that the more you fail, the closer you to get to figuring it out — to finally be successful.
That’s not hype either.
That’s reality. The more you get it wrong, the closer you are to getting it right. If you learn and adapt and adjust then you have a steady stream of clues to guide you to success.
It’s a mindset. A powerful way to stay focused in spite of your recent results — “This is helping me get closer to success…”
Keep that in mind when things get tough. You might be closer to the solution than you thought.
Maybe the only thing holding you back is what is in your head.