Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

December 31, 2012

Two Words That Will Change The Rest Of Your Life.

Business success often comes down to a few simple words.  Frankly, so does success anywhere else in life. If you are going to be a champion you need to get good at getting sorry when you screw up.

Otherwise you’ll never end up being as awesome as you otherwise could be.

Admittedly, that flies in the face of conventional business wisdom.

We’ve adopted well meaning ideologies like “never let them see you cry” and “fake it until you make it”to an insane degree of inappropriateness.  In our quest for toughness, we’ve mislabeled selfishness and ego as confidence and courage.

And it’s crippling our ability to achieve audacious acts of mind-blowing awesome.

Winners know the importance of saying “I’m Sorry.”

(And meaning it.)

Those two little words make all the difference when it comes to success or failure.

And maybe that’s because “I’m Sorry” isn’t the empty words we choke out when we’re backed into a corner.  It’s not a grudging admission of “getting caught”.

It’s an attitude of personal responsibility.  A lifestyle of changing what can most easily be changed — you.

Anything else is just a vicious struggle.

  • If you find it hard to say “I’m Sorry” you probably also struggle with accepting criticism.  You find yourself pointing the finger at others around you.  You’re also the person who says things like: “That’s not fair” or “But what about them”.  
  • If you find it hard to say “I’m Sorry” you probably also struggle to improve.  Whether it’s business or personal, sports or a hobby, you seem to always find yourself being unlucky.  No matter what you do you can’t seem to get ahead.  You stay stuck.
  • If you find it hard to say “I’m Sorry” you probably also struggle with having loyal friends.  Sure you have people around you, but when you really need people to stick their neck for you, everyone seems to be in hiding.  You can’t seem buy help.

Frankly, we all struggle at times to say “I’m Sorry.” Especially when there are other people who are somewhat responsible.

Winners say “I’m Sorry” even when it’s embarrassing to do.

Nothing is more courageous than owning up to your inadequacies.  Wimps aren’t tough enough to try this.  They’re too busy pointing fingers, blaming karma, or speculating how unfair life is to them.

So while wimps whine, winners apologize.

And not because they feel pressured into it.  Not because they need to get out of trouble. They take control of the tiny sliver of life that they can influence — improving themselves.  The apology is just their way of letting you know on the outside what is already going on on the inside.

Simple words.  Just two of them.  But with the power to change the rest of your life.

  • You’ll have better friends and more people willing to take a chance on you.
  • You’ll build deeper loyalty with those you work with.
  • You’ll improve faster and avoid mistakes that others can’t spot.
  • You’ll find confrontation easier to deal with.

What changed is your attitude.  Instead of being quick to blame, you’re quick to be a better person.

And that’s your hope for being a winner

Being better today than you used to be yesterday.

What would you do with the rest of your life if you were a better you tomorrow?

You can get started making that happen.

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.