Being Thick Skinned Is For Chumps.

There’s no glory in learning how to “take criticism.”
Despite what you have probably been told about needing a grow a “thick skin”, there is something magically inspired about taking life deeply personally. About getting offended, hurt, angry, and even.

You don’t have to find the positive in everything others say to you.

Sometimes there is nothing worthwhile learning. Sometimes it’s not the right time to learn.

Sometimes you are better off staying angry.

Being able to easily shrug off pain and hurt doesn’t make you a better person or closer to being more successful. The truth is that having a thick skin stops you from being motivated by failure.

You aren’t tough enough to win until you’re angry enough to do what’s extraordinary. That only comes when you have thin enough skin to feel the sting of getting of wrong and work relentlessly to make that feeling go away.

Masking failure with excuses, deflection, or baggage from your past just stops you from harnessing the bitter rage that would otherwise move you past your obstacle.

It burns a lot of emotional energy to get angry and stay that way.

You’ll get less sleep and sometimes lose friends.

But you get better results than just shrugging off bad outcomes.

So maybe it’s time to get angry. And stay that way.

0 Replies to “Being Thick Skinned Is For Chumps.”

  1. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  2. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  3. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  4. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  5. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  6. When people say you need to have thick skin, it means to not take anything personal, not just ignore it and move on. I agree that it’s good to get angry, anger motivates, but it can also cloud your judgement and make you miss the big picture;use anger in moderation. Also, most people who are thin skinned don’t try again because of fear of getting hurt again, they get paralyzed. Those who use failure as motivation instead, have thick skin, because yeah it hurt, but they know scars are for badasses.

    1. I don’t know about that. Some “thin skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Just like some “thick skinned” people don’t try as hard as they should. Some people use the the pain of failure to try even harder…

      Dan

      1. Then the lesson is to take failure as a lesson to try harder, regardless of your skin’s toughness, or popular idioms. I agree.

  7. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

  8. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

      2. You’re just going to take that from him?! If I’m you, I’d delete his comment and forbid anyone to make stupid posts like that. After all, do you want other people making bad comments in this article of yours?

    2. No, fuck you and your insensitivity, dumb-ass! Didn’t you read what this article? One of the things that’s wrong with people like you in this day and age is your refusal to be considerate of others’ feelings. Suppose harasses you or loved ones (if you have any) like hell. Would you try to toughen or tell them to?
      It’s really stupid that assholes like you support the bullshit that’s known as social Darwinism. Who gives you the right to be macho? In fact, who gives you the right to force your machismo on others?

      For your information, bastards like you have turned this country into a cesspool of insensitive and inconsiderate dipshits who think that it’s fun to make victims out of others. And in case you haven’t learned, that “stick and stones” phrase really depends on the situation that a person’s in.

      So do me a favor and shove your bigotry up your ass.

  9. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

  10. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

      2. You’re just going to take that from him?! If I’m you, I’d delete his comment and forbid anyone to make stupid posts like that. After all, do you want other people making bad comments in this article of yours?

    2. No, fuck you and your insensitivity, dumb-ass! Didn’t you read what this article? One of the things that’s wrong with people like you in this day and age is your refusal to be considerate of others’ feelings. Suppose harasses you or loved ones (if you have any) like hell. Would you try to toughen or tell them to?
      It’s really stupid that assholes like you support the bullshit that’s known as social Darwinism. Who gives you the right to be macho? In fact, who gives you the right to force your machismo on others?

      For your information, bastards like you have turned this country into a cesspool of insensitive and inconsiderate dipshits who think that it’s fun to make victims out of others. And in case you haven’t learned, that “stick and stones” phrase really depends on the situation that a person’s in.

      So do me a favor and shove your bigotry up your ass.

  11. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

  12. Waldschmidt, it’s people like you who have turned this country into a cesspool of whining, identity-politics-obsessed shits obsessed with their “feelings.” So much for “sticks and stones.” We’re soft now, and there’s no way to go but down. So fuck you and your thin skin.

    1. HaHaHa… I hear you, dude. As a former MMA fighter and now as an ultra-runner I wouldn’t think of myself (or those in this community) as soft or whiners. Who knows?

      I take it you’re annoyed either way, right?

      Dan

      1. Something tells me Heywood didn’t actually read this article all the way through. Some people mistranslate anger to mean fear. Fear is cripling. Anger is motivating. Wrath is distructive. …be motivated. …be angry. …demand success from yourself and never let anyone tell you your not good enough to have it. One thing I’ve found to be true these days is that for those with an agenda, tenacity and deliberate passion are often offensive.
        When you won’t walk someone elses line because they think you should you already have all the motivation you need. The best way to find out who is on your side and who is just baiting you for their own agenda is to step out of their box and see what happens.

        The results can be telling.

      2. You’re just going to take that from him?! If I’m you, I’d delete his comment and forbid anyone to make stupid posts like that. After all, do you want other people making bad comments in this article of yours?

    2. No, fuck you and your insensitivity, dumb-ass! Didn’t you read what this article? One of the things that’s wrong with people like you in this day and age is your refusal to be considerate of others’ feelings. Suppose harasses you or loved ones (if you have any) like hell. Would you try to toughen or tell them to?
      It’s really stupid that assholes like you support the bullshit that’s known as social Darwinism. Who gives you the right to be macho? In fact, who gives you the right to force your machismo on others?

      For your information, bastards like you have turned this country into a cesspool of insensitive and inconsiderate dipshits who think that it’s fun to make victims out of others. And in case you haven’t learned, that “stick and stones” phrase really depends on the situation that a person’s in.

      So do me a favor and shove your bigotry up your ass.

  13. One thing need to be added, in my opinion. You need to be angry with yourself, not with others who criticize you. Being angry with others is destructive and gives others CONTROL over your feeling, thoughts and actions.You need to be angry with yourself for letting yourself down, for cutting corners, for lowering your own standards, for depending on circumstances and elements that are out of your control. You need to get to the point when you say to yourself “enough is enough!”. And stop counting on others, on their opinion or even “permission”. You want to count on something or somebody – count on yourself. What you think, what you do, how you react – that is in your control.

    1. Are you saying that we should be masochistic and suicidal?! Sounds to me that you want everyone to let others walk all over them.
      FYI, people have the right to be angry with others if it’s for good reason.

      1. “Being walked all over” is a state of mind — not reality. People might take advantage of you. People might treat you unfairly. That’s much assured to happen.

        The truth is that you can use that anger and frustration you feel to try to “get even” or you can work harder than ever. That’s an attitude shift.

        Be angry. Just don’t act like an idiot. Let it motivate you to reach new levels of greatness.

        Dan

  14. One thing need to be added, in my opinion. You need to be angry with yourself, not with others who criticize you. Being angry with others is destructive and gives others CONTROL over your feeling, thoughts and actions.You need to be angry with yourself for letting yourself down, for cutting corners, for lowering your own standards, for depending on circumstances and elements that are out of your control. You need to get to the point when you say to yourself “enough is enough!”. And stop counting on others, on their opinion or even “permission”. You want to count on something or somebody – count on yourself. What you think, what you do, how you react – that is in your control.

    1. Are you saying that we should be masochistic and suicidal?! Sounds to me that you want everyone to let others walk all over them.
      FYI, people have the right to be angry with others if it’s for good reason.

      1. “Being walked all over” is a state of mind — not reality. People might take advantage of you. People might treat you unfairly. That’s much assured to happen.

        The truth is that you can use that anger and frustration you feel to try to “get even” or you can work harder than ever. That’s an attitude shift.

        Be angry. Just don’t act like an idiot. Let it motivate you to reach new levels of greatness.

        Dan

  15. One thing need to be added, in my opinion. You need to be angry with yourself, not with others who criticize you. Being angry with others is destructive and gives others CONTROL over your feeling, thoughts and actions.You need to be angry with yourself for letting yourself down, for cutting corners, for lowering your own standards, for depending on circumstances and elements that are out of your control. You need to get to the point when you say to yourself “enough is enough!”. And stop counting on others, on their opinion or even “permission”. You want to count on something or somebody – count on yourself. What you think, what you do, how you react – that is in your control.

    1. Are you saying that we should be masochistic and suicidal?! Sounds to me that you want everyone to let others walk all over them.
      FYI, people have the right to be angry with others if it’s for good reason.

      1. “Being walked all over” is a state of mind — not reality. People might take advantage of you. People might treat you unfairly. That’s much assured to happen.

        The truth is that you can use that anger and frustration you feel to try to “get even” or you can work harder than ever. That’s an attitude shift.

        Be angry. Just don’t act like an idiot. Let it motivate you to reach new levels of greatness.

        Dan

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