It’s hard to be bold when you are scared out of your mind. When you’re brain is panicking and you aren’t sure if you are going to make it this time.
You’ve been there before.
It might have been a bad late-night experience, an unexpected call about the health of a family member, or a Tuesday morning business meeting where you found out you might not have a job for much longer.
It’s hard to catch your breath. Your mouth feels dry. You need some space. The walls feel like they’re closing in on you. And you just want to stop being confused and frightened.
You want things to be alright again.
And you’re not sure it’s even possible. Or how it could even happen.
The truth is that you aren’t as powerless as you feel. You don’t need to be as scared and hopeless as you think you are:
- Breathe. Take a deep breath and hold it. — Before you do something stupid, you need to get back in control of the nonsense going on in your head. The same strategy that helps a mom deliver a baby can help you manage the pain and fear going on in your head. Breathe.
- Stop reacting and start planning. — Don’t do anything just yet. Even if the house is on fire around you, a smart plan is better than unfocused, frantic behavior. No matter how bad things are force yourself to stop and think through what you “could” do next.
- Get going and stay going. — Once you have a plan in place, don’t look back. Start executing the details of your plan with the passion of a person possessed. You know how important every moment is so work smart and hard. You can fix what’s broken if you make every moment count.
- Get angry. Take time for physical activity. — There is something “healing” about breaking a sweat. It’s something that is in your control. It makes you strong — not forever, but for long enough to remember what it’s like to conquer again.
Fear isn’t forever. It just feels that way.
What you’re going through – what you’re feeling – is just the nastiness of life. It’s what happens sometimes. Good people get bad news.
But you don’t have to live skittish, nervous, and scared out of your mind. Life isn’t evil. Or out to get you.
So be fearless. Get back up when you get knocked down. Go the distance.
Look failure and doubt in the eye and try again.
Today is a new day.