Bad things sometimes happen to good people. That’s often forgotten in our discussion about personal responsibility and “getting what you deserve”.
We forget that accidents happen.
Accidents that you had nothing to do with. You didn’t deserve to be hurt or plan to be hurt or even expect that might happen to you. Bad things happening to a good person.
And you’re left wondering what you did to bring this upon yourself. Is it something you did now? Something that you did years ago that you have since forgotten? What was it that you did that could have caused such horrific respect consequences .
A lot of the time the answer is simple: Nothing.
This isn’t about you. What’s going on isn’t always just about you.
Sometimes you’re a bystander to someone else’s conquest. Sometimes you’re just in the crowd watching the game as it’s being played by others. It can feel so close that you start to think it’s about you.
Did you have something to do with what happened?
It’s not always all about you.
And sometimes that’s a good thing. Its a reminder that you’re responsible for your reactions. It’s a guide post to keep you on-course and focused, humbled yet hungry.
Sometimes bad things happen. And good people get hurt. And when those people are your friends or family or clients or prospects you can’t help but take that tragedy personally.
Just remember that it’s not about you and your fear or guilt or doubt.
It’s about them. So help them heal.
You’ll want that same help for you sometime soon enough.