Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

September 4, 2013

The Big Problem With Listening To Other People’s Opinions.

Caring about what other people think of you will derail every imaginative dream you have for yourself.

It will destroy your ability to execute on breakthrough ideas. It will cripple your ability to sell your services with confidence. It will dilute the power of strong marketing language.

Caring about what other people think of you will destroy you in the long run.

The problem with other people’s opinions is that they usually aren’t that well informed.

Those around you, even those who care for you, don’t know what you’re thinking and where you’re going as well as you do.

They observe what you are doing from the sidelines. They overhear your plans from time to time. They infer your motivations from what they see you do.

To change that, to truly change other people think, takes an enormous investment of energy from you.

And, at the end of the day, it doesn’t even really matter.

You don’t win more because everyone around you thinks you should win more.

You don’t close more deals because your boss or your buyer thinks you deserve to close more deals. No one gives you a break at their own expense simply because you look like a guy that deserves to get lucky.

No. That’s just not how people think and act.

Usually, those around you are self-intentioned. They care about you, but they care about themselves a whole lot more.

That’s just how they are wired. That’s what you do too.

So running around trying to win over your detractors is just a waste of your time.

It’s also not a license for you to be a jerk. But neither is it permission for you to waste your time doing something stupid.

Time and experience change everyone’s perspective. Maturity adds new interpretation to how other people see things.

Which is why you fighting for your dreams is the most important thing you can be doing right now.

Not trying to win over friends. Not trying to convince people that what you’re doing is smart and savvy. Not buckling to the pressure of your peers.

Standing up is what you need to be doing. Fighting for you. Driving towards your goals with relentless focus.

There will always be those who are jealous of you. There will always be those who disagree with your style.

Even your best friends will find fault with your actions and attitudes.

So spend your time pushing for breakthrough, not approval.

Have your own dreams — stop adopting the dreams other people tell you you should have.

Lead with kindness but firmness. Never look back. Stay focused on where you want to be.

Time will change your doubters.

And even if it doesn’t, you won’t care then anyways.

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.