How To Change What You Can’t Change When Nothing Will Change.

There are things you can’t control. Accidents happen. Other people’s mistakes cost you.

You get bad news when you least expect it. At times you feel like your entire universe is spiraling madly out of control.

And as you look around you’re left wondering what can you do.

You are angry and confused and frightened and not really sure what to do to solve the problem.

We’ve all had those feeling. A feeling of being out of control. Its a hopeless, helpless state of mind. It feels like no matter what you do nothing gets better. You’re just stuck in a rut.

The truth is that getting back in control is simply about you taking back control.

To feel like you’re in control, you need to be in control.

In control off something. Something small. Not everything. Just one small part of your life.

Think about all the areas in your life that you have control over.

  • What you watch on TV.
  • If you finish that book sitting on your nightstand.
  • How much you exercise.
  • What type of food you put in your body.
  • Where you spend your money. And how much.

There are thousands of choices that you have complete control over.

No one can stop you if you don’t want to be stopped. So don’t be stopped.

Change up things. Do something different. You’ll feel more in control.

The truth is that you will still have the same annoying problems you had the day before, but you’ll have a valuable new perspective. New creativity.

New ideas for conquering the obstacles that stand in your way.

If you want more control, take it back.

Start now.

0 Replies to “How To Change What You Can’t Change When Nothing Will Change.”

  1. Hi Dan,

    This is so true. In fact, the more accountability you have for your life the more control you have over it. Instead of waking up and saying “I wonder what’s going to happen to me today!!?” take responsibility for it all. If someone acts like a jerk which we have no control over, we have control over how to respond. And in some cases take responsibility that you were the one that let them in your space after they maybe flew their “I am not a good person” flag earlier which you chose to ignore perhaps?

    Some people get so overwhelmed when looking at everything that seems to be going wrong all at the same time. But isolating those things and looking at each one individually and what the solution is can surface if something really is a problem.

    For example, as you mentioned someone on your team causes a major problem or makes a big mistake–take it up a notch and say they leave a trail of destruction behind them. It’s happened to all of us. Good thing is they are gone. The cost of them leaving maybe was more than if you got rid of them when you first thought you should, but they are gone now–yay. So it’s a good thing. Maybe the fix is painful to do damage control, but it will never happen again. And things can always be worse, be thankful they are not. Good things can come out of bad things if you look for the lesson–such as do you need to do a better hiring profile? Better contract verbiage? Add a layer of quality control?

    We have control over everything if we own it and take responsibility. It gives us our control back.

  2. Hi Dan,

    This is so true. In fact, the more accountability you have for your life the more control you have over it. Instead of waking up and saying “I wonder what’s going to happen to me today!!?” take responsibility for it all. If someone acts like a jerk which we have no control over, we have control over how to respond. And in some cases take responsibility that you were the one that let them in your space after they maybe flew their “I am not a good person” flag earlier which you chose to ignore perhaps?

    Some people get so overwhelmed when looking at everything that seems to be going wrong all at the same time. But isolating those things and looking at each one individually and what the solution is can surface if something really is a problem.

    For example, as you mentioned someone on your team causes a major problem or makes a big mistake–take it up a notch and say they leave a trail of destruction behind them. It’s happened to all of us. Good thing is they are gone. The cost of them leaving maybe was more than if you got rid of them when you first thought you should, but they are gone now–yay. So it’s a good thing. Maybe the fix is painful to do damage control, but it will never happen again. And things can always be worse, be thankful they are not. Good things can come out of bad things if you look for the lesson–such as do you need to do a better hiring profile? Better contract verbiage? Add a layer of quality control?

    We have control over everything if we own it and take responsibility. It gives us our control back.

  3. Hi Dan,

    This is so true. In fact, the more accountability you have for your life the more control you have over it. Instead of waking up and saying “I wonder what’s going to happen to me today!!?” take responsibility for it all. If someone acts like a jerk which we have no control over, we have control over how to respond. And in some cases take responsibility that you were the one that let them in your space after they maybe flew their “I am not a good person” flag earlier which you chose to ignore perhaps?

    Some people get so overwhelmed when looking at everything that seems to be going wrong all at the same time. But isolating those things and looking at each one individually and what the solution is can surface if something really is a problem.

    For example, as you mentioned someone on your team causes a major problem or makes a big mistake–take it up a notch and say they leave a trail of destruction behind them. It’s happened to all of us. Good thing is they are gone. The cost of them leaving maybe was more than if you got rid of them when you first thought you should, but they are gone now–yay. So it’s a good thing. Maybe the fix is painful to do damage control, but it will never happen again. And things can always be worse, be thankful they are not. Good things can come out of bad things if you look for the lesson–such as do you need to do a better hiring profile? Better contract verbiage? Add a layer of quality control?

    We have control over everything if we own it and take responsibility. It gives us our control back.

  4. Hi Dan,

    This is so true. In fact, the more accountability you have for your life the more control you have over it. Instead of waking up and saying “I wonder what’s going to happen to me today!!?” take responsibility for it all. If someone acts like a jerk which we have no control over, we have control over how to respond. And in some cases take responsibility that you were the one that let them in your space after they maybe flew their “I am not a good person” flag earlier which you chose to ignore perhaps?

    Some people get so overwhelmed when looking at everything that seems to be going wrong all at the same time. But isolating those things and looking at each one individually and what the solution is can surface if something really is a problem.

    For example, as you mentioned someone on your team causes a major problem or makes a big mistake–take it up a notch and say they leave a trail of destruction behind them. It’s happened to all of us. Good thing is they are gone. The cost of them leaving maybe was more than if you got rid of them when you first thought you should, but they are gone now–yay. So it’s a good thing. Maybe the fix is painful to do damage control, but it will never happen again. And things can always be worse, be thankful they are not. Good things can come out of bad things if you look for the lesson–such as do you need to do a better hiring profile? Better contract verbiage? Add a layer of quality control?

    We have control over everything if we own it and take responsibility. It gives us our control back.

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