Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

October 17, 2013

Still Stuck? Try Kindness.

You don’t need to look far to find mean people.

You don’t have to have much experience to experience being bullied, badgered, or belittled by someone else who believes something different than you do.

Whether it’s religion, politics or a rival sports team, you have different opinions from a lot of other people. Your opinions, like everyone else, will change with time and circumstances.

It’s easy to think of disagreement as a win-or-lose proposition — if you can’t convince the other person that they’re wrong and you’re right then you lose.

But that’s not likely to happen. So you’re likely to lose most of the time.

It’s not likely that you can change other people’s deeply personal beliefs they’ve developed through their unique experiences in life.

And getting angry about it and belittling those people who disagree with you just makes you a bully. (And no one like a bully.)

Getting loud and angry isn’t an effective strategy for winning hearts and minds.

But kindness is.

When is so much of your world involves other people pointing fingers, shouting over you, and pressuring you to give in, give up, and stop going on, your kindness transforms that chaos and frustration into quietness and renewed resolve.

It doesn’t take much. A smile. A kind word. A thoughtful pause.

When you’ve given up on our way to go forward perhaps your plan shouldn’t be combat but compassion.

Less conquest, more kindness.

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt is an international business strategist, speaker, author, and extreme athlete. His consulting firm solves complex marketing and business strategy problems for top companies around the world. Dow Jones calls his Edgy Conversations blog one of the top sales sites on the internet. He is author of Edgy Conversations: How Ordinary People Can Achieve Outrageous Success.