8 Better Ways To Get Even Instead Of Just Staying Angry.

It is easy to get distracted by the nonsense that happens around you in life.

Is easy to stop working on your goals and chase outcomes that are rooted in anger — not in success.

No matter what goal you are trying to achieve, distractions all around you.

It could be a boss that rules with a heavy hand. Maybe it is a church group that claims to do good but can’t seem to get along. It could be your school or your kid’s school or your grandkid’s school.

It could be that other people on your team get more attention than you do. Or that a new hire gets paid more than you do — or did when you started. Maybe what distracts you is that your personal life is a mess. Maybe your finances are a mess.

The truth is that there are an endless supply of distractions that can make you angry and vengeful and take your focus completely off the goal that you want to achieve.

You can spend an entire lifetime “fighting for justice” and still lose out on the rich rewards of achieving success.

Instead of making sure that people “get what’s coming to them” or “putting people in their place”, whining, whimpering, sulking, pointing the finger, or playing passive aggressive parlor games, you can get even without losing focus.

  1. Work hard. Channel your frustration into putting in more effort. Do something. Do more of that “something” than you were doing before.
  2. Fight yourself. Work up a sweat. Get some exercise. Hit something. Get some exercise. It will help you think straight.
  3. Talk it out. Sometimes you just need to say out loud what you’re thinking. Get it off your chest. But just to you. You might smile when you’re done.
  4. Practice kindness. Instead of fighting with those you disagree with, purposely find one thing but you can smile about.
  5. Deliver on results. Follow up on your promises. Follow through on your promise. If you said you were going to do it, then do it.
  6. Soak it in. Take deliberate time each day to think about achieving your goals. Plan for that moment. Let it drive you to stay focused.
  7. Ignore the haters. Cut off your access to mean people. Get away from them. Stop listening to them. Remove them from your life.
  8. Ask for help. Find people who can help you figure out the challenges ahead. Be a good student. Listen to what you are told.

Distractions start off innocently. But all too quickly they become powerfully disabling.

Instead of moving forward towards where you want to be, you find yourself sinking into a quicksand of despair, misery, and confusion — always wondering why you never seem to achieve the results you dream possible.

Perhaps a little less sanctimony and a little more deliberate activity is the key to you getting back on track.

Don’t let someone else’s nonsense rob you of your destiny.

 

0 Replies to “8 Better Ways To Get Even Instead Of Just Staying Angry.”

  1. this was a much appreciated post. when we focus on whatever “unfair” thing going on in our lives – for me it was lack of recognition at work and others taking the credit – whether real or imaginary, we just drag ourselves down. I’m now refocusing on making myself better, learning continuously, and doing the things I love. It’s so much more rewarding and makes me feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be, rather than steaming and stewing in my misery.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Anna. I get offended too when other people seem to get all the credit (and act like idiots). 🙂

      But you are right — it brings us down. It weakens our resolve. It cripples our ability to go be awesome.

      Dan

  2. this was a much appreciated post. when we focus on whatever “unfair” thing going on in our lives – for me it was lack of recognition at work and others taking the credit – whether real or imaginary, we just drag ourselves down. I’m now refocusing on making myself better, learning continuously, and doing the things I love. It’s so much more rewarding and makes me feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be, rather than steaming and stewing in my misery.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Anna. I get offended too when other people seem to get all the credit (and act like idiots). 🙂

      But you are right — it brings us down. It weakens our resolve. It cripples our ability to go be awesome.

      Dan

  3. this was a much appreciated post. when we focus on whatever “unfair” thing going on in our lives – for me it was lack of recognition at work and others taking the credit – whether real or imaginary, we just drag ourselves down. I’m now refocusing on making myself better, learning continuously, and doing the things I love. It’s so much more rewarding and makes me feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be, rather than steaming and stewing in my misery.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Anna. I get offended too when other people seem to get all the credit (and act like idiots). 🙂

      But you are right — it brings us down. It weakens our resolve. It cripples our ability to go be awesome.

      Dan

  4. this was a much appreciated post. when we focus on whatever “unfair” thing going on in our lives – for me it was lack of recognition at work and others taking the credit – whether real or imaginary, we just drag ourselves down. I’m now refocusing on making myself better, learning continuously, and doing the things I love. It’s so much more rewarding and makes me feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be, rather than steaming and stewing in my misery.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it, Anna. I get offended too when other people seem to get all the credit (and act like idiots). 🙂

      But you are right — it brings us down. It weakens our resolve. It cripples our ability to go be awesome.

      Dan

  5. The thing I’ve learned over the years, is that immediate justice is rare. Sometimes it is flip-sided so you look wrong, are misunderstood, and appear to be the bad guy. It takes time for the truth to come out….maybe years, but it does come out.

    The thing to remember though is water settles at it’s own level, so the people that did whatever they did, will do it again. They often do it to the people that supported them against you. It all comes around.

    Some people are wired to support like-minded people, they will never see the truth. You may not have known this about them until you were expecting them to have more intelligence about something. But sometimes our level of awareness grows so they aren’t a fit for our universe anymore anyway–so it is a good pruning.

    Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.

    The worst thing that happened to them already has, they are them.

    1. You bring up a point (several of them actually). 🙂
      Can I repeat your brilliant observation: “Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.”

      So damn true, Mari Anne…

      Dan

  6. The thing I’ve learned over the years, is that immediate justice is rare. Sometimes it is flip-sided so you look wrong, are misunderstood, and appear to be the bad guy. It takes time for the truth to come out….maybe years, but it does come out.

    The thing to remember though is water settles at it’s own level, so the people that did whatever they did, will do it again. They often do it to the people that supported them against you. It all comes around.

    Some people are wired to support like-minded people, they will never see the truth. You may not have known this about them until you were expecting them to have more intelligence about something. But sometimes our level of awareness grows so they aren’t a fit for our universe anymore anyway–so it is a good pruning.

    Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.

    The worst thing that happened to them already has, they are them.

    1. You bring up a point (several of them actually). 🙂
      Can I repeat your brilliant observation: “Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.”

      So damn true, Mari Anne…

      Dan

    2. “Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also
      into you.”


      Friedrich Nietzsche

      I have a friend that always steps on me, belittles and demonizes me and
      other people I know.He brags about himself constantly and values his
      most idiotic opinions highly and superior.He is a radical and frankly
      not very clever
      ,but it doesn`t stop him from making a lot of noise.He hates people
      younger than him and even abused people I know and he doesn`t on a
      social media group.He disagrees with a lot of things that I say only to
      assert some dominance and elitism .Even thinks his dreams when he sleep
      are better than anyone elses just because he is an artist.

      He is a narcissist if have to be
      honest.I used to believe that the truth will transcend time and people
      will see him for what he truly is but that never happens.He has hurt me
      countless times and I came close to knocking his socks off but keep
      restraining myself.Always when I bring something up about how he doesn`t
      make right with others or how he what he says is very hurtful and even
      cowardice he denies it or has
      no(selective) memory off it.He screwed me over so many times that I
      started to hate him.Even managed to break the relationship up I had with
      friends and crushes.Managed to get to off my friends banned from a
      group , as the evidence stood they never admitted to any crime of piracy
      of video materials but he made it sound like they did.

      One time it so happened when I brought something
      up only to shed some light on a matter and give him another more
      rational way of looking at the topic at hand he immaturely cast me out
      as a heretic and a devil worshipper.yes he is also an extreme opinionated christian .The topic as it was that I disagreed with
      so happens to never realized as he hoped it would.Basically it was some
      2012 NWO conspiracy world dominance apocalypse thing that he believed
      will allow the event of the rapture to happen where upon he would be
      taken to heaven and as he said “…I will laugh in every ones face when
      this happens.”Implying that we who don`t believe the prophecy of this
      Youtube video are by default sheeple.

      After our exchange he attacked
      me via email and said if I ever confront him again like I have in the
      past (and to my testament with good reason as I usually ignore him)I
      must bring evidence against him.He said this in a manner that didn`t
      challenge me to do so but to nullify my claims I have made then and
      there and in the past.

      The amount of hurt over the 15 years I know him and the daily
      downtrodding propelled me to do just this and for four years now I have
      been spying on every little detail and post he has made on
      facebook.Gathering all the evidence for one big bundle reveal.It has
      come to a point where every post he makes every day is in someway
      evidence for all my claims that he is in fact a troll and a shallow
      person.I actually became addicted doing this and feel that I should keep
      doing it for as long as I can because this stuff is gold.I know however
      he will deny it anyway even if I present him with physical evidence and
      it will end our friendship forever but I feel justice should come to
      this person.

      And this manhunt is eating me up.I wish I can stop but it feels like I am doing the right thing even when I know I am not.

      I have entered an unforgiving abyss from I which I feel I cannot return
      because I lack the ability to forgive.Hatred is darkness and suffering.

  7. The thing I’ve learned over the years, is that immediate justice is rare. Sometimes it is flip-sided so you look wrong, are misunderstood, and appear to be the bad guy. It takes time for the truth to come out….maybe years, but it does come out.

    The thing to remember though is water settles at it’s own level, so the people that did whatever they did, will do it again. They often do it to the people that supported them against you. It all comes around.

    Some people are wired to support like-minded people, they will never see the truth. You may not have known this about them until you were expecting them to have more intelligence about something. But sometimes our level of awareness grows so they aren’t a fit for our universe anymore anyway–so it is a good pruning.

    Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.

    The worst thing that happened to them already has, they are them.

    1. You bring up a point (several of them actually). 🙂
      Can I repeat your brilliant observation: “Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.”

      So damn true, Mari Anne…

      Dan

  8. The thing I’ve learned over the years, is that immediate justice is rare. Sometimes it is flip-sided so you look wrong, are misunderstood, and appear to be the bad guy. It takes time for the truth to come out….maybe years, but it does come out.

    The thing to remember though is water settles at it’s own level, so the people that did whatever they did, will do it again. They often do it to the people that supported them against you. It all comes around.

    Some people are wired to support like-minded people, they will never see the truth. You may not have known this about them until you were expecting them to have more intelligence about something. But sometimes our level of awareness grows so they aren’t a fit for our universe anymore anyway–so it is a good pruning.

    Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.

    The worst thing that happened to them already has, they are them.

    1. You bring up a point (several of them actually). 🙂
      Can I repeat your brilliant observation: “Bottom line, in 10 years you’ll be the person that has achieved huge things, become a better person, and give inspiration to those around you. And the people that did what they did, are the same people they were 10 years ago griping about their life.”

      So damn true, Mari Anne…

      Dan

    2. “Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also
      into you.”


      Friedrich Nietzsche

      I have a friend that always steps on me, belittles and demonizes me and
      other people I know.He brags about himself constantly and values his
      most idiotic opinions highly and superior.He is a radical and frankly
      not very clever
      ,but it doesn`t stop him from making a lot of noise.He hates people
      younger than him and even abused people I know and he doesn`t on a
      social media group.He disagrees with a lot of things that I say only to
      assert some dominance and elitism .Even thinks his dreams when he sleep
      are better than anyone elses just because he is an artist.

      He is a narcissist if have to be
      honest.I used to believe that the truth will transcend time and people
      will see him for what he truly is but that never happens.He has hurt me
      countless times and I came close to knocking his socks off but keep
      restraining myself.Always when I bring something up about how he doesn`t
      make right with others or how he what he says is very hurtful and even
      cowardice he denies it or has
      no(selective) memory off it.He screwed me over so many times that I
      started to hate him.Even managed to break the relationship up I had with
      friends and crushes.Managed to get to off my friends banned from a
      group , as the evidence stood they never admitted to any crime of piracy
      of video materials but he made it sound like they did.

      One time it so happened when I brought something
      up only to shed some light on a matter and give him another more
      rational way of looking at the topic at hand he immaturely cast me out
      as a heretic and a devil worshipper.yes he is also an extreme opinionated christian .The topic as it was that I disagreed with
      so happens to never realized as he hoped it would.Basically it was some
      2012 NWO conspiracy world dominance apocalypse thing that he believed
      will allow the event of the rapture to happen where upon he would be
      taken to heaven and as he said “…I will laugh in every ones face when
      this happens.”Implying that we who don`t believe the prophecy of this
      Youtube video are by default sheeple.

      After our exchange he attacked
      me via email and said if I ever confront him again like I have in the
      past (and to my testament with good reason as I usually ignore him)I
      must bring evidence against him.He said this in a manner that didn`t
      challenge me to do so but to nullify my claims I have made then and
      there and in the past.

      The amount of hurt over the 15 years I know him and the daily
      downtrodding propelled me to do just this and for four years now I have
      been spying on every little detail and post he has made on
      facebook.Gathering all the evidence for one big bundle reveal.It has
      come to a point where every post he makes every day is in someway
      evidence for all my claims that he is in fact a troll and a shallow
      person.I actually became addicted doing this and feel that I should keep
      doing it for as long as I can because this stuff is gold.I know however
      he will deny it anyway even if I present him with physical evidence and
      it will end our friendship forever but I feel justice should come to
      this person.

      And this manhunt is eating me up.I wish I can stop but it feels like I am doing the right thing even when I know I am not.

      I have entered an unforgiving abyss from I which I feel I cannot return
      because I lack the ability to forgive.Hatred is darkness and suffering.

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