Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

October 2, 2013

8 Better Ways To Get Even Instead Of Just Staying Angry.

It is easy to get distracted by the nonsense that happens around you in life.

Is easy to stop working on your goals and chase outcomes that are rooted in anger — not in success.

No matter what goal you are trying to achieve, distractions all around you.

It could be a boss that rules with a heavy hand. Maybe it is a church group that claims to do good but can’t seem to get along. It could be your school or your kid’s school or your grandkid’s school.

It could be that other people on your team get more attention than you do. Or that a new hire gets paid more than you do — or did when you started. Maybe what distracts you is that your personal life is a mess. Maybe your finances are a mess.

The truth is that there are an endless supply of distractions that can make you angry and vengeful and take your focus completely off the goal that you want to achieve.

You can spend an entire lifetime “fighting for justice” and still lose out on the rich rewards of achieving success.

Instead of making sure that people “get what’s coming to them” or “putting people in their place”, whining, whimpering, sulking, pointing the finger, or playing passive aggressive parlor games, you can get even without losing focus.

  1. Work hard. Channel your frustration into putting in more effort. Do something. Do more of that “something” than you were doing before.
  2. Fight yourself. Work up a sweat. Get some exercise. Hit something. Get some exercise. It will help you think straight.
  3. Talk it out. Sometimes you just need to say out loud what you’re thinking. Get it off your chest. But just to you. You might smile when you’re done.
  4. Practice kindness. Instead of fighting with those you disagree with, purposely find one thing but you can smile about.
  5. Deliver on results. Follow up on your promises. Follow through on your promise. If you said you were going to do it, then do it.
  6. Soak it in. Take deliberate time each day to think about achieving your goals. Plan for that moment. Let it drive you to stay focused.
  7. Ignore the haters. Cut off your access to mean people. Get away from them. Stop listening to them. Remove them from your life.
  8. Ask for help. Find people who can help you figure out the challenges ahead. Be a good student. Listen to what you are told.

Distractions start off innocently. But all too quickly they become powerfully disabling.

Instead of moving forward towards where you want to be, you find yourself sinking into a quicksand of despair, misery, and confusion — always wondering why you never seem to achieve the results you dream possible.

Perhaps a little less sanctimony and a little more deliberate activity is the key to you getting back on track.

Don’t let someone else’s nonsense rob you of your destiny.


About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.