A lot of business (especially when it comes to sales deals) feels like that age-old spectre of herding cats.
Getting what you want requires a lot of personal investment — making sure that everyone involved does what you need them to do.
There are countless tools to help you better manage projects and teams and communication. Tools that make it easier to share documents and schedules and expected outcomes. And while tools and plans and smart expectations do a lot to make success achievable, you are bound to be smacked in the face with distractions that you are unprepared to manage.
Distractions that out of your control to manage.
Out of nowhere a family member is diagnosed with a serious sickness. Your child gets hurt or does poorly in school. Someone that you love hurts you. The government shuts down. The company you work for goes bankrupt.
And there is nothing that you can do about it.
You can’t put a broken company back together all by yourself. You can’t convince squabbling politicians to make nice and get things done. You can’t force someone to love you who’s already moved on. You can’t live someone else’s life. Do someone else’s work. Or make someone else care about your goals the way you do.
But you don’t need to feel powerless. Hopeless. Helpless.
There are things that you’ll never be able to control. But the beauty of free well is that “you control you”. You control your attitude. You control your belief in you. You own your outcomes.
No amount of distraction, destruction, or third-party nonsense can take that power away from you.
Like a tiny seed planted in the garden of your heart, hope most be nurtured. You must be deliberate about how you focus your attention.
You have to prepare your mind for the battle ahead.
If you’re not careful, you’ll find yourself on an emotional roller-coaster, flailing up and down with the highs and lows that life stands up in front of you. Never knowing where you’re at is where you should be. Never focusing on what matters.
So what can you do?
- Admit that some things are out of your control.
- Take time each day to do what matters.
- Stop listen to negative thinking — no matter where it is being offered.
- Get fit physically, mentally, and financially.
- Meditate >> Moderate >> Motivate
- Ask for specific help from those who can help you.
- Ignore the haters, the fakers, and the “pot-stirrers”
- Apologize when your bad attitude or actions hurt other people.
- Find a few things each day that make you smile.
- Give back. Grow up. Never give up.
- Take pride in working harder than anyone else around you.
- Observe and learn lessons from the behavior you see around you.
- Say “Thank You” more and mean it.
There’s no science to managing the pitfalls of distraction.
It could happen in a moment’s notice. Even when everything seems fine you can end up gasping for air. Wondering what happened and why it had to happen to you.
It’s not easy to stay focused when there are things that are out of your control happening all around you. If it were simple then you would already be doing it. (And so what everyone else around you.)
Instead, you find your emotions twisted and turned by the nonsense and confusion created by others.
It is easy for days to turn into weeks.
And those weeks turn into years.
Tomorrow quickly becomes forever. And with it, a lifetime of unrealized awesomeness.
Don’t sacrifice what you could be for someone else’s drama.
Stay focused. Stay awesome. Live like a man (or woman) on a mission.
Fight. Cry. Bleed. Stand back up. And do it all over again.
Get to where you want to be. Don’t let anyone stop you.