Why Avoiding Negativity Should Be Your Top Priority.

Get serious about avoiding negativity in your life.
Its a cancer that will destroy your best intentions  and turn your big ideas into spiteful attempts getting even and proving the wrong people wrong.

You’ll miss opportunities to be awesome and let the worst fears of those around you cripple your resolve to be amazing.

The reality is that negativity is all around you.

It’s part of the news shows that update you on your day’s events. It’s part of the chatter around the water cooler at your office. It’s part of your conversations at church and school, what your clients talk about, and a big part of the rumors that circulate around your industry.

Negativity is what happens naturally.

You are wired to be fearful. Uncertainty drives your brain into overdrive in all the wrong directions. When you add to that fear the skepticism and bad experiences of others, you can help but be uninspired.

It’s what happens naturally.

You go from big ideas with big enthusiasm to having smaller ideas with no enthusiasm at all. It doesn’t happen in one day. You don’t go from hero to zero in a few hours. Bit-by-bit, day-by-day you stop believing in the best parts of life and start buying into the negativity that’s all around you.

You can’t help it. When you feel threatened or anxious or fearful your brain tells you to stop dreaming big and just make it through the rest of the day.

The secret to staying motivated is to put yourself in a different environment. To hang around people who are positive, hopeful, excited about the possibilities for the future.

You have to guard your brain from negativity at all costs.

The secret to staying powerful and positive is too shut off the messages and media of doom-and-gloom. No matter where those messages come from.

You might need to go to a different church. You might need to hang around different people at the office. You might need to cancel cable TV. You might need to stop hanging out with your old set of friends.

The truth is that negativity likes company. Negative people want you to be negative too.

But you’ll destroy your dreams along the way.

You’ll go from hopeful to helpless.

Protect your dreams at all costs. Protect your passion from those who would destroy it.

Guard your vision. Refuse to let negativity cripple your ability to be amazing..

0 Replies to “Why Avoiding Negativity Should Be Your Top Priority.”

  1. Kind of a negative take on negativity isn’t it? We are experiencing a world of people that avoid issues, conflict and problems when topics or situations or people seem ‘negative’. It’s a form of passivity really. There are balanced approaches. And polarizing life through a lens of negative and positive will lead to a frustrated existence after a time. Try optimism. Optimism takes on the world as it is and seeks to make things better through action.

    1. Sorry if I came off too dark, Michael. I seem to have conversations each day where the problem is simply “way too much negative thinking”.

      Senior execs need to vigilante about removing negative people from their teams — and protecting the team from too much “doom and gloom”.

      And you are right. And the end of the day it is up to each of us to be positive and powerful. That is the antidote…

      Dan

  2. Kind of a negative take on negativity isn’t it? We are experiencing a world of people that avoid issues, conflict and problems when topics or situations or people seem ‘negative’. It’s a form of passivity really. There are balanced approaches. And polarizing life through a lens of negative and positive will lead to a frustrated existence after a time. Try optimism. Optimism takes on the world as it is and seeks to make things better through action.

    1. Sorry if I came off too dark, Michael. I seem to have conversations each day where the problem is simply “way too much negative thinking”.

      Senior execs need to vigilante about removing negative people from their teams — and protecting the team from too much “doom and gloom”.

      And you are right. And the end of the day it is up to each of us to be positive and powerful. That is the antidote…

      Dan

      1. I can’t believe you apologized to that idiot Michael. He tried making a weak argument about you being the one that is negative. His “negative take on negativity” idea is stupid! There was nothing in what you wrote that was negative. Your story was wonderful! How in the world is saying that you are going to choose to be positive and keep away from negative people, a negative thing? He doesn’t know what he is talking about. As a matter of fact, he bullied you into believing that you were the negative one and even made you to believe that you should apologize for it when in fact you had nothing to apologize for. Michael is the type of negative person that you are writing and warning against. If it’s a negative thing to try and get away from negative people, then there is no moving forward into a positive state because if you try to be positive, then that is in fact being negative according to Michael. He is wrong. I do not agree with him. I am against him. If this is negative, then I am positively happy to be against him.

  3. Kind of a negative take on negativity isn’t it? We are experiencing a world of people that avoid issues, conflict and problems when topics or situations or people seem ‘negative’. It’s a form of passivity really. There are balanced approaches. And polarizing life through a lens of negative and positive will lead to a frustrated existence after a time. Try optimism. Optimism takes on the world as it is and seeks to make things better through action.

    1. Sorry if I came off too dark, Michael. I seem to have conversations each day where the problem is simply “way too much negative thinking”.

      Senior execs need to vigilante about removing negative people from their teams — and protecting the team from too much “doom and gloom”.

      And you are right. And the end of the day it is up to each of us to be positive and powerful. That is the antidote…

      Dan

  4. Kind of a negative take on negativity isn’t it? We are experiencing a world of people that avoid issues, conflict and problems when topics or situations or people seem ‘negative’. It’s a form of passivity really. There are balanced approaches. And polarizing life through a lens of negative and positive will lead to a frustrated existence after a time. Try optimism. Optimism takes on the world as it is and seeks to make things better through action.

    1. Sorry if I came off too dark, Michael. I seem to have conversations each day where the problem is simply “way too much negative thinking”.

      Senior execs need to vigilante about removing negative people from their teams — and protecting the team from too much “doom and gloom”.

      And you are right. And the end of the day it is up to each of us to be positive and powerful. That is the antidote…

      Dan

      1. I can’t believe you apologized to that idiot Michael. He tried making a weak argument about you being the one that is negative. His “negative take on negativity” idea is stupid! There was nothing in what you wrote that was negative. Your story was wonderful! How in the world is saying that you are going to choose to be positive and keep away from negative people, a negative thing? He doesn’t know what he is talking about. As a matter of fact, he bullied you into believing that you were the negative one and even made you to believe that you should apologize for it when in fact you had nothing to apologize for. Michael is the type of negative person that you are writing and warning against. If it’s a negative thing to try and get away from negative people, then there is no moving forward into a positive state because if you try to be positive, then that is in fact being negative according to Michael. He is wrong. I do not agree with him. I am against him. If this is negative, then I am positively happy to be against him.

      1. What a welcome breath of fresh air with which to start the day! It is a perfect morning to reflect back upon my big dreams.

      1. What a welcome breath of fresh air with which to start the day! It is a perfect morning to reflect back upon my big dreams.

      1. What a welcome breath of fresh air with which to start the day! It is a perfect morning to reflect back upon my big dreams.

      1. What a welcome breath of fresh air with which to start the day! It is a perfect morning to reflect back upon my big dreams.

  5. Although we are constantly trying to avoid negativity in out everyday live and some more than others, it will always surround us no matter where we are in life. I agree with Michael in that there has to be a balance between the negative and the positive. Ying and Yang within Chinese Philosophy is the perfect example, they in face are complementary forces. When we are overwhelmed with the negativity surrounding us, it’s the positive that keeps our heads up an helps us appreciate the positive when it happens.

    1. You are right, Gina. There does have to be a balance.

      BUT there is a lot that we can do to manage that “balance”. Right?

      There are places that we can avoid, people and activities that we can avoid.

      (The truth is that managing that balance is something I need to get better at…)

      Dan

  6. Although we are constantly trying to avoid negativity in out everyday live and some more than others, it will always surround us no matter where we are in life. I agree with Michael in that there has to be a balance between the negative and the positive. Ying and Yang within Chinese Philosophy is the perfect example, they in face are complementary forces. When we are overwhelmed with the negativity surrounding us, it’s the positive that keeps our heads up an helps us appreciate the positive when it happens.

    1. You are right, Gina. There does have to be a balance.

      BUT there is a lot that we can do to manage that “balance”. Right?

      There are places that we can avoid, people and activities that we can avoid.

      (The truth is that managing that balance is something I need to get better at…)

      Dan

  7. Although we are constantly trying to avoid negativity in out everyday live and some more than others, it will always surround us no matter where we are in life. I agree with Michael in that there has to be a balance between the negative and the positive. Ying and Yang within Chinese Philosophy is the perfect example, they in face are complementary forces. When we are overwhelmed with the negativity surrounding us, it’s the positive that keeps our heads up an helps us appreciate the positive when it happens.

    1. You are right, Gina. There does have to be a balance.

      BUT there is a lot that we can do to manage that “balance”. Right?

      There are places that we can avoid, people and activities that we can avoid.

      (The truth is that managing that balance is something I need to get better at…)

      Dan

  8. Although we are constantly trying to avoid negativity in out everyday live and some more than others, it will always surround us no matter where we are in life. I agree with Michael in that there has to be a balance between the negative and the positive. Ying and Yang within Chinese Philosophy is the perfect example, they in face are complementary forces. When we are overwhelmed with the negativity surrounding us, it’s the positive that keeps our heads up an helps us appreciate the positive when it happens.

    1. You are right, Gina. There does have to be a balance.

      BUT there is a lot that we can do to manage that “balance”. Right?

      There are places that we can avoid, people and activities that we can avoid.

      (The truth is that managing that balance is something I need to get better at…)

      Dan

  9. One way to fight negativity is to embrace it as an opportunity to educate and enlighten. But yes, with the news focused on sensationalism and controversy it’s hard to remember that there are far more good people in the world than bad. It’s hard to remember that we are still producing a bumper crop of highly educated, motivated and skilled young people. It’s hard to remember that even the poorest in our nation have opportunities and support not available to millions.

  10. One way to fight negativity is to embrace it as an opportunity to educate and enlighten. But yes, with the news focused on sensationalism and controversy it’s hard to remember that there are far more good people in the world than bad. It’s hard to remember that we are still producing a bumper crop of highly educated, motivated and skilled young people. It’s hard to remember that even the poorest in our nation have opportunities and support not available to millions.

  11. One way to fight negativity is to embrace it as an opportunity to educate and enlighten. But yes, with the news focused on sensationalism and controversy it’s hard to remember that there are far more good people in the world than bad. It’s hard to remember that we are still producing a bumper crop of highly educated, motivated and skilled young people. It’s hard to remember that even the poorest in our nation have opportunities and support not available to millions.

  12. One way to fight negativity is to embrace it as an opportunity to educate and enlighten. But yes, with the news focused on sensationalism and controversy it’s hard to remember that there are far more good people in the world than bad. It’s hard to remember that we are still producing a bumper crop of highly educated, motivated and skilled young people. It’s hard to remember that even the poorest in our nation have opportunities and support not available to millions.

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