Why You Don’t Change And What To Do About It.

We often imagine change as being the stuff of protests, outrage, and public persuasion. Crowds marching through the streets, beating on drums and waving banners.

Change usually isn’t so glamorous.

It usually starts with quiet resolve. You deciding that no matter what exists right now, you will take a different path. Will create a trail. You will do whatever it takes to do what needs to be done.

Those quiet moments don’t come by accident.

They won’t come at all if you don’t have a plan to create them. Which is why in spite of all the festivities and joyous celebration a new year brings, introspection is certainly time well spent.

Time to think about what needs to be changed.

What do you feel so passionately about that you will do whatever needs to be done in order to create change? Change starts with these quiet moments of resolve. Moments of honesty and courage.

These moments define greatness.

Are you planning your moment?

0 Replies to “Why You Don’t Change And What To Do About It.”

  1. So what are people doing when they protest? Usually what’s happening is that they want others to change and accept their beliefs – rather than changing themselves. After all, it’s less challenging that way, isn’t it?
    It also happens when people demand you stop doing something – they don’t want to change, so you must do it for them!

    But getting down to the nitty gritty here – what does it mean when you say “change” at all? Usually it means you’ve hit up against something that doesn’t work, or you’re uncomfortable with. In most cases – especially when you’re not adept at using emotional intelligence – it means you’re challenging your assumptions. More to the point since many of these will be subconscious you’ll be up for a hard task!

    Which is why it’s easier to ask others to do it for you!

    So here’s a simple technique for you. You’ve met the conditions under which you noticed the problem. Realize the circumstances under which it occurred, and see which elements are distasteful to you. Take one element at a time and work out the circumstances in which this occurs – and since it’s one element (one feeling) it’ll happen more often – more importantly it’ll be easier to deal with.

    The rest is up to you. The puzzle is there for you to solve, not others.

    Simplifying the issue makes it clear as to what needs to happen, how you need to change. The point is to use the reality of the world we live in to test our thoughts and feelings. In this way you can chip away at your intellectual assumptions – which will bring you more peace of mind.

    Resolving this issue in the plain light of day will allow you to adapt to the realities of life. This is crucial. Most of us live in a way that’s riddled with absurd assumptions that we all take for granted. Whittling away at them will bring you closer to the reality not only of this world – our touchstone – but to yourself.

    Be warned that this can take some time. I’ve been at it for three decades and more – however the results are more than worth the trouble it takes.

  2. So what are people doing when they protest? Usually what’s happening is that they want others to change and accept their beliefs – rather than changing themselves. After all, it’s less challenging that way, isn’t it?
    It also happens when people demand you stop doing something – they don’t want to change, so you must do it for them!

    But getting down to the nitty gritty here – what does it mean when you say “change” at all? Usually it means you’ve hit up against something that doesn’t work, or you’re uncomfortable with. In most cases – especially when you’re not adept at using emotional intelligence – it means you’re challenging your assumptions. More to the point since many of these will be subconscious you’ll be up for a hard task!

    Which is why it’s easier to ask others to do it for you!

    So here’s a simple technique for you. You’ve met the conditions under which you noticed the problem. Realize the circumstances under which it occurred, and see which elements are distasteful to you. Take one element at a time and work out the circumstances in which this occurs – and since it’s one element (one feeling) it’ll happen more often – more importantly it’ll be easier to deal with.

    The rest is up to you. The puzzle is there for you to solve, not others.

    Simplifying the issue makes it clear as to what needs to happen, how you need to change. The point is to use the reality of the world we live in to test our thoughts and feelings. In this way you can chip away at your intellectual assumptions – which will bring you more peace of mind.

    Resolving this issue in the plain light of day will allow you to adapt to the realities of life. This is crucial. Most of us live in a way that’s riddled with absurd assumptions that we all take for granted. Whittling away at them will bring you closer to the reality not only of this world – our touchstone – but to yourself.

    Be warned that this can take some time. I’ve been at it for three decades and more – however the results are more than worth the trouble it takes.

  3. So what are people doing when they protest? Usually what’s happening is that they want others to change and accept their beliefs – rather than changing themselves. After all, it’s less challenging that way, isn’t it?
    It also happens when people demand you stop doing something – they don’t want to change, so you must do it for them!

    But getting down to the nitty gritty here – what does it mean when you say “change” at all? Usually it means you’ve hit up against something that doesn’t work, or you’re uncomfortable with. In most cases – especially when you’re not adept at using emotional intelligence – it means you’re challenging your assumptions. More to the point since many of these will be subconscious you’ll be up for a hard task!

    Which is why it’s easier to ask others to do it for you!

    So here’s a simple technique for you. You’ve met the conditions under which you noticed the problem. Realize the circumstances under which it occurred, and see which elements are distasteful to you. Take one element at a time and work out the circumstances in which this occurs – and since it’s one element (one feeling) it’ll happen more often – more importantly it’ll be easier to deal with.

    The rest is up to you. The puzzle is there for you to solve, not others.

    Simplifying the issue makes it clear as to what needs to happen, how you need to change. The point is to use the reality of the world we live in to test our thoughts and feelings. In this way you can chip away at your intellectual assumptions – which will bring you more peace of mind.

    Resolving this issue in the plain light of day will allow you to adapt to the realities of life. This is crucial. Most of us live in a way that’s riddled with absurd assumptions that we all take for granted. Whittling away at them will bring you closer to the reality not only of this world – our touchstone – but to yourself.

    Be warned that this can take some time. I’ve been at it for three decades and more – however the results are more than worth the trouble it takes.

  4. So what are people doing when they protest? Usually what’s happening is that they want others to change and accept their beliefs – rather than changing themselves. After all, it’s less challenging that way, isn’t it?
    It also happens when people demand you stop doing something – they don’t want to change, so you must do it for them!

    But getting down to the nitty gritty here – what does it mean when you say “change” at all? Usually it means you’ve hit up against something that doesn’t work, or you’re uncomfortable with. In most cases – especially when you’re not adept at using emotional intelligence – it means you’re challenging your assumptions. More to the point since many of these will be subconscious you’ll be up for a hard task!

    Which is why it’s easier to ask others to do it for you!

    So here’s a simple technique for you. You’ve met the conditions under which you noticed the problem. Realize the circumstances under which it occurred, and see which elements are distasteful to you. Take one element at a time and work out the circumstances in which this occurs – and since it’s one element (one feeling) it’ll happen more often – more importantly it’ll be easier to deal with.

    The rest is up to you. The puzzle is there for you to solve, not others.

    Simplifying the issue makes it clear as to what needs to happen, how you need to change. The point is to use the reality of the world we live in to test our thoughts and feelings. In this way you can chip away at your intellectual assumptions – which will bring you more peace of mind.

    Resolving this issue in the plain light of day will allow you to adapt to the realities of life. This is crucial. Most of us live in a way that’s riddled with absurd assumptions that we all take for granted. Whittling away at them will bring you closer to the reality not only of this world – our touchstone – but to yourself.

    Be warned that this can take some time. I’ve been at it for three decades and more – however the results are more than worth the trouble it takes.

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