Fear will destroy every good thing you want for yourself. It will cripple your ambition, paralyze your energy, and destroy your confidence.
When you’re held by the clutches of fear, your vision is warped. You stop seeing good things and only notice the evil in the world around you.
It’s not just in your head, fear consumes your whole body.
You are short of breath and nervous, eyes darting from one thing to the next in anticipation of problems to come.
You miss out on opportunities to be better and do better simply because you’re too paralyzed by fear to give those opportunities a chance.
Fear is an addiction.
Like alcohol or drugs, food or sex, an unhealthy relationship with fear will destroy you and everyone else around you.
To break free is a journey of recovery like any other addiction.
To win, you have to be serious about recovery.
It is an every day battle.
Here is how you win:
- Admit the power that fear has over you and recognize that you are powerless on your own to fix this problem. You haven’t been able to beat it in the past and the only way to fix it going forward is to do something different this time around.
- Believe that you are on this earth to do something uniquely possible for someone of your abilities. You have a higher purpose — a noble calling. You were meant to be amazing. Fear does not have to hold you captive.
- Search yourself honestly. How much of your fear right now is caused by poor choices you made in past? This isn’t a brand new situation for you. You already know why fear has such a grip over your soul. Iy’s time for the honest conversation of your life.
- Clean out your past skeletons. Apologize to people you have wronged. Confront people who have hurt you deeply. Apologize to those you harbor bitterness for. Confront your demons head on. Fight for your future by cleaning up your past.
- Accept responsibility for every feeling, thought, and choice you make from this moment forward. It’s a clean slate. Nothing needs to hold you captive any longer. So act like it. Try something new. Most importantly, own your results.
- Spend time healing each day. Whether it’s meditation, prayer, exercise, or yoga — spend time keeping your head straight. Invest in activities and habits that build your endurance for doing the hard work to beat your addiction.
- Take inventory of your progress each day. You’re going to have good days and bad days. To win you need to be deliberate and honest about your behaviors — and the thoughts that you battle each day. Improve each day in small ways.
- Help someone else beat their addiction. The best learning you’ll ever do is to teach someone else. The best healing you’ll experience is to help someone else get better themselves. Pay it forward. Be a mentor. Help someone else get past the obstacles standing in their way.
If you want to win, you can.
But it’s not going to be easy. Fear is an addiction.
It’s not just a feeling. It’s a wrecking ball of awfulness that will destroy everything you have ever wanted for yourself.
Face the demons holding you back from the future you deserve.
Right now. Pick one thing and do it.
Win more. Fear less.