“It’s just business – not personal.” “We had to make a decision. Don’t take it personally.”
Ever heard that before? Ever been told that you shouldn’t get upset over a disappointing decision because it wasn’t “personal”?
Somehow you’re overreacting. Overly emotional. Broken. Flawed. Wasting your time on hurt feelings and righteous outrage.
You’re supposed to get over it.
Maybe that’s where you went wrong in the past.
You got over it a little too quickly. You dried your tears too quickly. You moved on to the next thing too quickly.
And wasted the rage burning inside you.
Passion and longevity are invaluable commodities you need in the battle ahead.
You’re going to get beat down and bullied.
You’re going to face some of the darkest moments of your life as you progress from where you are right now to where you eventually want to be.
You’re going to face rejection and bigotry.
Failure, deceit, and people who break the rules just to keep you down.
In the fog of the battle it’s easy to go through the day with a stunned expression on your face – a fatalistic sense that no matter what you do it’s never going to get any better.
Your legs drive you forward but your heart is mired in depression. You’ve already quit. Given up long ago.
Stop pretending like your battle wounds don’t hurt. Stop pretending that things will get better if you just endure the assault. Stop going through the motions and start fighting for your future.
Success is personal. Leadership is personal. Rejection is personal. Winning and losing are personal.
Your life is personal. Every part of it.
It’s time you channel your rage into disruption:
- Do something different today than you’ve never done in the past. Deliberately take risks and do things that scare you.
- Challenge your fears with boldness – even if it costs you something you think you need (like a job or relationship).
- Take quiet time to meditate on where you are at. Be brutally honest about your attitude, aptitude, and abilities.
- Smile at your critics. Laugh at the cynics, skeptics, and creeps. Do it instead of crying when no one can see you.
Take back control – at work, school, church, and home.
Anywhere you are. Anything you do. Take it personally.