You Should Take It Personally.

“It’s just business – not personal.”  
“We had to make a decision. Don’t take it personally.”

Ever heard that before? Ever been told that you shouldn’t get upset over a disappointing decision because it wasn’t “personal”?

Somehow you’re overreacting. Overly emotional. Broken. Flawed. Wasting your time on hurt feelings and righteous outrage.

You’re supposed to get over it.

Maybe that’s where you went wrong in the past.

You got over it a little too quickly. You dried your tears too quickly. You moved on to the next thing too quickly.

And wasted the rage burning inside you.

Passion and longevity are invaluable commodities you need in the battle ahead.

You’re going to get beat down and bullied.

You’re going to face some of the darkest moments of your life as you progress from where you are right now to where you eventually want to be.

You’re going to face rejection and bigotry.

Failure, deceit, and people who break the rules just to keep you down.

In the fog of the battle it’s easy to go through the day with a stunned expression on your face – a fatalistic sense that no matter what you do it’s never going to get any better.

Your legs drive you forward but your heart is mired in depression. You’ve already quit. Given up long ago.

Stop pretending like your battle wounds don’t hurt. Stop pretending that things will get better if you just endure the assault. Stop going through the motions and start fighting for your future.

Success is personal. Leadership is personal. Rejection is personal. Winning and losing are personal.

Your life is personal. Every part of it.

It’s time you channel your rage into disruption:

  1. Do something different today than you’ve never done in the past.  Deliberately take risks and do things that scare you.
  2. Challenge your fears with boldness – even if it costs you something you think you need (like a job or relationship).
  3. Take quiet time to meditate on where you are at. Be brutally honest about your attitude, aptitude, and abilities.
  4. Smile at your critics. Laugh at the cynics, skeptics, and creeps. Do it instead of crying when no one can see you.

Take back control – at work, school, church, and home.

Anywhere you are. Anything you do. Take it personally.

0 Replies to “You Should Take It Personally.”

  1. Good word. Our family has been through some difficult days with boys growing up to be young men (teenage problems) and another son with health problems. I try to tell them they cannot worry about what others think, but keep pushing to where they want to be, by God’s grace. And I needed to be reminded of “taking back control –at work, school, church, and home.” Thanks!

  2. Again you have released wonderful and true words into the atmosphere. They certainly inspire courage and initiative. Thanks again.

  3. I like this very much – I used to ask people “if I don’t take it personally, how will I give you my personal best?”And the link to rage (which I can do on an epic scale) is also useful to me personally. If you change “rage” to “passion” – and it is a very similar experience – the negative stigma can be turned into a positive personal attribute. And changes me from the angry chick in the meetings that no one wants to hear from into the thought leader that makes people go “yeah – what she said!!”.
    Thanks for a yet another thought provoking break in my day 🙂

  4. I love these…
    Passion and longevity are invaluable commodities you need in the battle ahead.

    Stop going through the motions and start fighting for your future.

    This blog reminds me of Orrin Woodward’s quote, “When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain to change, then you’ll change.” The problem is, most people don’t admit or confront the pain in their lives with the intentions to change. They don’t take it “personally” as you say. I don’t understand those that don’t take it (whatever is coming against them and getting in the way of a person’s success) personally. But, I must say, even though I choose to take it personally, I also refuse to get bitter, and choose to get better.

    See you at the top, Dan. Let’s keep crushing it.

  5. Awesome ideas, Dan. The fact that you “take it personally” is a essential indication that you care. Change begins there. Thanks!

      1. What when something could possibly change your life and it should matter to you yet many misses that opportunity. Above works when you instigate the change but what when change is suggested – by circumstances or people – and we don’t recognize those moments?

  6. Thanks Dan – something I have been struggling with and as seems to happen each week your words prompt some deeper reflection – love your work!

  7. I totally agree. I like how firmly you write about it. Too many times I’ve heard the words: “You take it too personally.” I mean, come in, how else can I take it? I’ve heard those words mostly at work. Maybe that’s why I wrote a post about it – “Do you take your job personally?” It’s mostly about customer service but I think it’s related to any job. Check out if you want.

  8. Dan, Good Stuff. We all lose and see things not go our way. We are not victims. We lose for a reason. For me, the best thing is to figure why/how and to not ever let it happen again!

    1. YEP. That is how you grow — by learning from your mistakes and being accountable for progress.

      And even though that is easier said than done, if you can be deliberate about taking time each week for “look backs” it sure is enlightening. There always seem to be a half dozen things that you can do better.


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