Being Better Than Best.

If you want to be the best, you have to be better than the best.
But how do you get better when you’re already doing your best right now and there are other people better than you?

You’re already telling people that you’re giving 110%. That you are “all in” all the way. You’re committed, driven, and willing to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals and improve.

Usually those are just words.

Empty words. Nice aspirations. And fanciful devotion. But usually just words. You aren’t really willing to do what it takes to be the best. You just want to look respectable.

Being the best looks quite a bit different than giving a lot, doing a lot, and hoping a lot. It demands that you put yourself in the horribly uncomfortable position of losing to other people.

Being the best demands that you deliberately seek out competitors who are already better than you.

No one wants to do that.

Especially when you have already worked brutally hard to achieve some level of success. When you’re better than pretty much everyone else around you right now.

The right competitors challenge you in ways you’re not being challenged right now. They do things in small ways significantly better than you can do those things.

Not everything. Just some things. And those things are the reason why you’re still not the best. They have mastered what you’re still aspiring to achieve.

It’s easy to shrug these competitors off.

It’s easy to have a perfectly amazing explanation for not getting better. It’s natural to want to celebrate the wins rather then work on future success.

One of the trademark characteristics of those who are the best at what they do is that they seek out competitors who make them better at what they are already the best at.

It’s a deliberate strategy. Not an accident. Intentional.

They find tougher players to play against.

And then they leave it all on the field.

They fight to win. And usually lose. For the first few tries at least.

But they don’t end up staying down. They get up, brush themselves off, and learn what they need to do to get back in the winner’s circle.

And that’s where they stay.

Better than best.

0 Replies to “Being Better Than Best.”

  1. I was preparing for the math test all weekend, and today after leaving the office,I realized that I failed it…was not very nice. but I kept saying and keep saying to myself that on the path to success I lose many times,many of which will not work with first attempt,but I must continue to fight, to improve…Also today is my birthday.And I’m glad you,Dan, published this post today,it really supported me as ever.I am ready to fight!)

  2. I hated confronting all of the rejection I was likely to face today. And then, I had the thought…the REAL successes have more FAILURES than everybody else. And, it got me on the phone. Getting TONS of rejections, but the ones who said “yes”? Sweet to my ears.

  3. Hello Dan,
    Thank you for your inspiring “Edgy Conversations”. This book and Stephen Covey’s “7 habits” are among my favourite every-day reads.

    I do realize that inspiration and motivation are not enough though. It takes discipline and courage to start and keep going.

    Thanks again.

    1. It’s important to remember. Motivation is one of those things that you lose after you stop looking for it.
      It’s hard to stay disciplined when you don’t have motivation. They are connected together. So it’s important to stay inspired. Make it a daily habit.

      Thanks for your kind comments about my book. Glad it made a difference for you. Be awesome.


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *