Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

February 25, 2020

39 Choices You Are Making That Prove You Are Already In Control Of Your Life.

It can seem like a lot of life is outside your control. Most of the time — no matter what you do — you can’t force other people to do what you want them to do.

You can’t instantaneously impact nature or economic trends. You can’t control the weather or the decisions that are made by other people in authority over you. You can’t force life to give you what you want.

And if you think about that for too long, you’ll find yourself perfectly convinced that you don’t control your life.

But that’s a lie. A dangerous lie

The longer you focus on things that are outside of your control, the more depressed and hopeless you’re going to feel.

It’s inevitable that you’re going to give up. Quit. Decide that life is too unfair for someone like you.

But the truth is that for everything in life you can’t fix, there’s another bigger part of life that you can fix.

Which makes you almost infinitely powerful, if you believe it.

Look around you. Those fixes to your problems everywhere:

  • You can’t control the weather, but you can control that you live in a place where you mostly enjoy the weather.
  • You can’t control the decisions that you’re boss makes, but you can control how long you work for that boss.
  • You can’t control how much you weigh right now, but you can control what you eat and how you exercise from this moment forward.

What you focus on most determines how successful you become.

Your thoughts and dreams and aspirations are a direct result of what you spend your time obsessing about. And the truth is that you are already in control.

Don’t waste the power you have.

You are already in control of your mind

  1. You get to choose how you talk to yourself
  2. You get to choose how you talk about yourself to others
  3. You get to choose if you give someone else the benefit of the doubt
  4. You get to choose whether you think positive or negative thoughts
  5. You get to choose how often you replay the bad things that have happened in your past.

You are already in control of your body

  1. You get to choose when you choose to compete
  2. You get to choose where you channel your emotions
  3. You get to choose how much you exercise
  4. You get to choose how much effort you put into the work you do
  5. You get to choose if you make getting sleep a priority or not

You are already in control of your career

  1. You get to choose what you say “YES” to
  2. You get to choose what you say “NO” to
  3. You get to choose how well you prepare
  4. You get to choose how much information you get before you make a decision
  5. You get to choose how you structure your day
  6. You get to choose who your friends are

You are already in control of your wealth

  1. You get to choose when you walk away from a goal.
  2. You get to choose the expectations you put on your life
  3. You get to choose how much you enjoy the good things you have in your life right now
  4. You get to choose if you allow negative things into your life
  5. You get to choose what you learn from your mistakes

You are already in control of your emotions

  1. You get to choose how you react to others
  2. You get to choose what you do with envy, anger, anxiety, and sadness
  3. You get to choose how kind you are to others
  4. You get to choose how much time you spend trying to convince people you’re right.
  5. You get to choose what you do with your regrets
  6. You get to choose if you put yourself in someone else’s position before reacting

You are already in control of your actions

  1. You get to choose where you live
  2. You get to choose how much attention you give to others
  3. You get to choose which commitments you keep and cancel
  4. You get to choose if you try something new
  5. You get to choose if you are honest or not
  6. You get to choose when or if you decide to quit

You are already in control of your growth

  1. You get to choose what books you read
  2. You get to choose when to ask for help
  3. You get to choose when you learn something new
  4. You get to choose how quickly you try again after you fall
  5. You get to choose when you choose to judge other people
  6. You get to choose if you say what is on your mind

And millions of other choices you get to make each day. Each minute. Each second.

No one can stop you if you don’t want to be stopped.

So don’t be stopped.

Change up things. Do something different. Choose better.

The truth is that you will still have the same annoying problems you had the day before, but you’ll have a valuable new perspective. New creativity.

The reality of life is that what you expect from it is up to you.

It’s natural to feel disappointed and discouraged at times by what’s going on around you.

If you have half a heart at all you’re going to be bothered when nice, kind people suffer.

Don’t let your experiences break your expectations.

Don’t let bitterness turn you into a skeptic. Don’t let depression immobilize your ability to change the world for the better. Don’t be naive, simplistic, or willfully ignorant.

Expect less of life to happen to you. Work on making life happen for you.

Remember that you are already in control.

What do you want to do about it?

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.