Some people find it easier than othersto be committed.
You probably have that person in your circle of friends who always gets up way too early in the morning to go workout at the gym regardless of the weather or how they feel.
Or that person who carefully prepares all their food ahead of time so that they can eat healthy in spite of what is going on around them.
That person who sticks with a plan and a purpose no matter how many times they have failed in the past or how ridiculous they appear to everyone else around them.
You may not have that same level of commitment. In any area of your life — let alone that one key area that you know you need to work on. That goal that actually means something to you.
In truth, commitment is something that is nurtured.
You don’t automatically know how to commit. It’s a skill that is taught to you.
And if you didn’t have parents that taught you how to be committed and strong and how to persevere — you might be late to the party trying to figure out what commitment is all about and how to use it in your own life.
The truth is that you want to be committed. You just don’t know how. You’ve never been taught what it really means.
You haven’t had the luxury of parents who push and push and push and push you in what seems like unreasonable ways until you figure out how to be committed.
So what do you do if you’re trying to figure it out now?
- Spend some time to get clear on what really matters to you. The most powerful part of commitment is knowing that you are sacrificing for a goal that has maximum meaning to you.
- Write down your goal and place it in places where you’ll see it. Put it in your wallet next to your money, on your mirror next to your toothbrush, on the side of the coffee maker, in your car, and on the edge of your computer monitor.
- Find several people you can stay accountable with as you pursue your goal. Make a plan to check in each day with each other to make sure that you don’t backslide in quietness.
- Get back up when you find yourself uncommitted. Just keep working at it — especially when you find yourself uncommitted and uninspired. Give it another go around.
You might have to play some catch up to your more committed friends. They were raised knowing how to be committed.
You didn’t have that training.
You’re not a loser. You’re not lazy.
You just don’t have the experience knowing the power of commitment. Knowing that if you stick with something for long enough, you’ll end up with progress.
And if that progress is towards a goal that has real meaning for you, you will feel so awesome when you experience that success. That entire experience, despite the struggle, is contagious.
When you see it working, you want more of it.
That’s the power of being committed. That’s the power of learning to be committed.
If you’re getting started late in life, don’t give up. Don’t blame other people.
Just be aware that there is a process that works. Get clear on what you want. Be accountable to other people.
Keep pushing forward.