You can’t solve problems better and achieve better results when you let your ego get in the way. Ego is the enemy of clarity.
When you’re desperate for success and need to see the way forward, you can’t do it when you’re biased by your own fears and panic — when the primitive part of your brain controls your decision-making process.
This isn’t anything new that you didn’t already know before.
The last time you got angry, you knew right when you were making that bad decision that it was indeed a bad choice. The same is true with forgiveness and being positive.
“IT’S EASY TO KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING. BUT IT’S SO MUCH HARDER TO ACTUALLY DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE WHEN IT’S EASIER, AND MORE FULFILLING IN THE MOMENT, TO TAKE THE LOW ROAD.”
When its so much more fun to enjoy revenge and say what’s on your mind — regardless of how hurtful it is.
Ego isn’t your friend. It is the enemy of everything awesome that you want for yourself.
So to remove it from your decision making process, you first have to be aware of what it looks like.
- Think about the last time you made a horrible decision because you were angry, annoyed, or frustrated.
- Now think about how you got into that state of mind.
It wasn’t an accident. Something happened that triggered you to change your mindset from one of empathy and logic to revenge and illogic — regardless of the negative consequences of that shift in mindset.
Think about how crazy that is for a minute. Someone else or something else automatically reached inside your soul and turned off the best parts of you, changing perhaps for forever your chances at greatness.
But just knowing that situation is crazy isn’t enough to actually cause you to change.
You have to notice what caused that shift. You have to track it back to its first moments and understand how over time you have wired yourself to respond in specific situations.
Here are a few questions to help you uncover a bit more about how your ego is involved in your decisions based on a particular situation:
- What would you have done differently if you had a chance to make that decision over again?
- What happened when you were making your initial decision to put you into a self-damaging mood?
- What person or group of people automatically make you feel defensive, inferior, or vengeful?
- What situations, locations, or specific types of events put you in a bad frame of mind automatically?
Your ego with destroy you if you let it. So don’t let it. Stand up for yourself. Fight for your future.
Put your bad decisions into perspective by being aware of the people and places and situations that twist your mind into acting badly.
Being clueless isn’t an advantage.