Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

January 22, 2019

The Unspoken Truth About Having Integrity And What To Do About It.

So here’s the thing about integrity. A lot of people talk about having it. No one claims to have lost it. Few know what it even means.

Think about it — you yourself have probably talked about yourself to others and shared with them that you are a “person of integrity.” I know that I have.

It’s something that we all want to claim. But it’s a lifestyle that’s a bit harder to live up to.

The truth about integrity is that it is most often discovered in the moments when life is the most unfair. That’s because integrity isn’t a series of actions, it’s a lifestyle.

It’s a set of rules that are wired into every part of who you are.

It’s not something that you have to do. It’s quite literally your code of conduct.

All too often, integrity becomes a list of requirements.

The rules for public engagement.

It’s the compromise we all agree to — so that we can do business together.

The problem with not having integrity and just going through the motions is that you eventually demonstrate that you don’t have integrity.

It’s not something that you can hide from others for very long.

A person of integrity delivers what they promise at the time they’ve promised. They follow up and follow through.

And, they do it for the right reasons. It’s not about receiving money or losing rewards. It’s about delivering on the commitments that you have made.

Having integrity is about valuing your word and living an intentional lifestyle that automatically nudges you towards success rather than inevitable failure.

Having integrity is a lot like gambling in Las Vegas.

There’s a reason that the casino always win. It’s built to win.

The games are intentionally built for the casino to get that extra edge and the entire system works to that end.

Management isn’t sitting around hoping that they make money. They know exactly what to do to make that happen.

You might be given a free meal — so that instead of going home, you stick around an extra day. In that extra day, you gamble a little bit more. When you gamble a little bit more, you increase the amount of money that you give to the house.

The house isn’t lucky. It’s religious. It delivers on the promise of taking your money.

In exchange, you might have fun, watch a show, or create some memories that you can share with your family and friends. But in the end, you end up losing your money.

It tells you that it’s going to take your money, and then it does.

The casino has integrity.

  • What if that was your life in a thousand little ways each day?
  • What if you were delivering on the promise of having integrity?
  • What if you committed to following up and following through.?
  • What if you built a system that nudged your effort and thoughts forward?

Your results weren’t an accident last time and won’t be an accident the next time. It’s all part of the system that you’ve built to make yourself a winner — even by a slimmest of margins.

See, progress doesn’t have to be something grandiose. Or majestic.

It’s the small things you do that shift the odds in your favor — that push you toward success.

One of the most impactful pieces of training that I’ve been a part of was a course from Mindvalley where T. Harv Eker was speaking about the spirituality of money.

Much of the course was information and insights that I already had a grasp of.

But in one of the trading sessions, Harv made the comment that: “How you do anything, is how you do everything.”

He kept saying that. It wasn’t just in one training course. He kept coming back to it in the follow up lessons.

He reminded all of us that the small things matter. Details become habits.

  • If you’re not willing to save money in small ways, you’re definitely not going to save money in big ways.
  • If you’re not willing to invest small amounts of money, then you’ll never have big amounts of money to invest.

How you do anything is how you do everything — because everything is made up of a bunch of anythings.

And while that might seem confusing, or a clever twist of words, it’s actually the definition of integrity.

How you do anything is how you will do everything. Sloppiness in one area of your life easily become sloppiness in all the other areas of your life.

Pretty soon, you know that you’re giving up and performing at much less than your best, but you aren’t sure how you got there and what to do to fix it.

You have integrity. That’s how you fix it.

You go back to the drawing board of your life with a clean sheet of paper and you start tackling the details.

Remember, the size of your success isn’t based on the large moments in your life — rather, the small, seemingly insignificant interactions that when combined together, create the integrity that safeguards your passage to success.

If it seems like you’re doing everything right, but not getting the results that you want — if you feel like you should be at a different place than you are right now, but aren’t sure how to get there — maybe it’s a matter of integrity.

Maybe you’ve slid backward in a few “anythings” that you need to tighten up and take back control over.

Here are a few small ways to get started:

  1. Fulfill your promises
  2. Make fewer commitments
  3. Keep your appointments
  4. Say “NO” more often
  5. Limit your gut reactions
  6. Improve your communication skills
  7. Apologize faster
  8. Avoid people who don’t share your values
  9. Develop candor
  10. Stay focused on what matters
  11. Surround yourself with people you admire

What “anythings do you need to improve?

Make the house work in your favor.

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt is an international business strategist, speaker, author, and extreme athlete. His consulting firm solves complex marketing and business strategy problems for top companies around the world. Dow Jones calls his Edgy Conversations blog one of the top sales sites on the internet. He is author of Edgy Conversations: How Ordinary People Can Achieve Outrageous Success.