Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

October 9, 2019

Why Winners “Won’t”.

Stop saying “I can’t”. Enough already with the “should I” or “I don’t know how” self-chatter.

If you are being honest with yourself and the rest of the world most of what you “can’t do” really ought to be an honest discussion about what you “won’t do”. 

It’s easy to reply to a hard challenge with the observation that “you can’t do that”.

You “can’t” or you “won’t”?

  • You can’t lose weight or you won’t stick to a diet?
  • You can’t make more money or you won’t work hard enough to earn more?
  • You can’t find a job or you won’t do what it takes to be found?

Being successful in life isn’t about what you “can’t do”. It’s about what you “won’t do”.

There is power in saying that you won’t do something. There is clarity in saying that you won’t do something.

There is a singular power and potency and seemingly superhuman potential when you shut down an opportunity for disastraction and refuse to be deterred.

But it’s scary to stop yourself. It feels awkward to slow yourself down. It’s unnatural to put limitations on yourself.

After all, isn’t that what other people are doing to you all the time.

Aren’t you keeping your options open so that if something bad happens you have something to fall back on?

The power you want lies in the secret behind your refusal. Behind every “won’t” is a much more powerful will.

The will to win. The will to work. The will to stay focused. The will t fight on, despite past losses.

If you will, it will. But when you decide that everything is an option — that every opportunity is equally important for yourself — you sacrifice what you really want.

All that potential. All that opportunity. Everything you could have been. You throw that away for the emotional crutch of feeling like you have unlimited options.

Here is the naked truth, your options have always been unlimited.

You have always been unlimited. You’ve always been able to do what you want to do.

So it’s foolish and rather downright silly to pretend that you “can’t” or “shouldn’t” or “might not”, “not sure”, “possibly,” or any other self-limiting self-talk you say that is stopping you from realizing your full potential.

Just say that you “won’t“. Say that you “won’t“.

Refuse to do anything other than that for which you have your heart set on most.

Demand awesomeness from yourself. Plan for all the best things to be right at your fingertips. Push yourself beyond mediocrity to the very edge of the greatness that you’ve always dreamed about.

It’s inside you, waiting to come out. Waiting to emerge. Waiting to show you the light of your own possibility. But none of that will ever happen until you refuse to do anything else but focus on what you care about most.

“Won’t” more. You’ll end up winning more.

But “won’t” isn’t just about focus. It’s about a mindset. A raging purposefulness.

“Won’t” is about that line in the sand you set for yourself.

I won’t back down until I get what I want. I won’t stop working until I reach the outcome that I want.

I won’t give up on my marriage, my relationships, or my destiny. I won’t stop fighting to be a better version of myself.

I won’t complain, be a cynic, point the finger at other people for my own mistakes, or pretend like the universe is out of my control.

Winners have a different vocabulary.

They see the world differently. They think of the world differently. They act differently.

They declare with passion what they won’t do.

That’s what winners do. Here’s the truth about trying:

  1. You can work harder than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  2. You can learn faster than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  3. You can keep giving longer than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  4. You can dream bigger than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  5. You can live more boldly than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  6. You can push the limits a little bit more than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  7. You can dig deeper more than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  8. You can fight through the fatigue longer than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.
  9. You can take being laughed at more than you think you can. But if you think you can’t, you probably won’t even try.

You can always do more than you think you can.

But you won’t find out, if you’re not willing to try.

And sometimes trying means you get hurt and fail. That you have to pick yourself back up off the street and get back headed towards where you want to be.

And if you won’t do that for you, why should anyone else believe that you are worth it?

Believing in yourself doesn’t magically solve your problems, but it solves the biggest problem of all — getting started in the first place.

Chances are, you’ll surprise yourself with how good you really are after taking that first step.

So why won’t you get started?

What’s stopping you from being focused, fearless, and fantastically willing to keep fighting for getting to where you want to be?

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.