Don’t waste your time trying to be something that you’re not. Don’t waste a moment pretending to be someone that you think other people want you to be.
The truth is that you get to choose what you do and who you are. You get to decide everything about your future. All of it. The money you make. The job you have. The people you love and the friends you surround yourself with.
None of that is forced upon you.
It’s already completely within your control to own each of those decisions. But pretending just makes everything worse.
You start to fool yourself.
When you first start pretending to be something that you’re not, you do it because you think it’s a temporary solution to achieving your long-term goals.
It just seems like an easier path forward. But it always comes back to cause you long-term anguish. It’s easy to think that who you’re pretending to be is actually the person that you are.
It’s easy to believe that because other people think something positive of you that who you’re pretending to be is a positive decision.
But you can never replace the real work you have to do on yourself to achieve lasting breakthrough.
You can’t run fast enough to escape your reality.
It catches up to you. And determines the ultimate level of your success.
Which is why you didn’t need to pretend anything in the first place. You don’t need to go through the motions with anyone or for anything. You just need to be you. Flawed. Fabulous. And a work in progress.
It’s okay to work at it. It’s okay to work on it.
It’s perfectly reasonable to be moving in a direction away from where you are right now.
What does that mean?
- You don’t need to be ashamed or embarrassed that you’re overweight or that you’re not as financially successful as you want to be.
- You don’t need to pretend like you’re smarter than you are or that you have more status or worldly significance.
You just need to be working on it.
Whatever it is that you want to be, you just need to be working on it.
There will always be others who have more money or who look better or who appear to have the thing that you’re working to acquire right now.
It will always seem easier and less frustrating for them than it is for you.
What you don’t know is that some of the time those other people who look like they’re so successful are just faking it.
What looks like success to you is really just a big batch of pretending. And you start to think that because it’s easy for them and they’re already successful that something’s wrong with you. That you’re broken.
That maybe you should give up on the hard work of changing who you are — and just pursue shortcuts. You start to think that instead of applying the discipline that comes along with transformation that you should just fake it until you make it.
True greatness takes time. Lasting domination isn’t an accident.
Breakthrough isn’t ever the result of you pretending anything.