Dan Waldschmidt

by Dan Waldschmidt

January 7, 2019

You Don’t Really Want To Be Successful Or Happy

Most people are working really hard to be successful. You’re probably one of them.

Success is different for each of us, but it is sold as a lifestyle that includes beautiful things, exotic vacations, and the financial independence to buy whatever it is you want, whenever you want.

While that’s a dream that many people are working towards, the simple truth is that success and money aren’t the real goal. Being happy is.

Happiness, not wealth, is the real goal for all of us.

You just might think that having money and beautiful things will make you happy. That success is happiness. But that’s not possible.

Happiness is happiness.

But even that is too simplistic of an explanation — because being happy is hard to define.

And because it’s not any type of happiness that you’re looking to achieve. It’s not any type of happiness that you’re chasing.

What you want to feel when you’re happy is it necessarily glee or joy, it is satisfaction. You’re chasing satisfaction.

Think about that for a second.

At the root of your being as a human is the desire to know that you have done all that you can do — that you are working as hard as you possibly can.

That you are growing and learning each day. Not because someone else is telling you that you must — but because you realize how integral those things are to you becoming the person you need to be.

Satisfaction trumps happiness which trumps success.

But there is still another level to this idea of success that you are chasing. Beyond happiness and satisfaction, there is clarity.

Before you can achieve success and be happy or satisfied, you have to know what you want. You have to be clear about what it is that you need in your life — about the destiny you want to enjoy.

You know how deeply frustrating it is when you don’t have clarity. You can’t be happy and confused at the same time.

Confusion, or a lack of clarity, automatically creates discomfort. Both emotions cannot exist together. Which is why finding clarity is the beginning of your greatness.

Before you could be happy or rich or in love you must know your purpose and your mission, what it is that you enjoy, and the rules by which you are willing to play the game of life.

And so, it is clarity that you must find.

But it’s not a treasure that you uncover or a mission that you complete, it is a series of lessons that you continue to learn. It’s about growth — not the finish line.

Which is why it’s on you to do activities that lead to clarity:

  • Reading is a way to learn and be smarter, but it’s really about you having more options to find clarity when you’re looking for answers.
  • Being part of a community where others empower you to level up your life is about doing more things in a bigger and bolder way. It’s also about the power of other people’s perspective to help you see a situation from a new vantage point.

Any new experience can give you clarity if you’re vulnerable enough to try and fail and learn and grow.

Clarity will come from every part of your life if you’ll allow it.

Ask yourself an important question when you’re stuck in a situation that seems likely to end in disaster.

  • What should I be learning and who can teach me this?
  • Who do I know who can give me a new perspective about this?
  • What don’t I know now that would help me see my situation differently?
  • Who do I need to become in order to know more exactly what I want?

If you’re chasing success you’re going to find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled with your outcomes.

What would make you satisfied? When you can answer that, you’ll know your closer than you’ve ever been define in clarity.

About the author

Dan Waldschmidt

Dan Waldschmidt doesn’t just talk about leveling up. He’s obsessed with it. He's set records as an ultra-runner and been the personal strategist for the leading business leaders of our time. He wrote a book, called EDGY Conversations that accidentally became a worldwide bestseller and continues to share his insights from the stage as a keynote speaker and on the blogs and podcasts you will find here. Most days, you'll find Dan heads-down, working on breakthrough strategies for his clients at EDGY Inc, a highly-focused, invite-only, business strategy execution company based out of Silicon Valley.