Practicing radical candor isn’t about the tone of your voice or how you deliver advice.
Not entirely, at least.
It’s about you being coachable.
About you receiving criticism first — before you give criticism.
In fact, you’ll never be good at practicing radical candor with others if you can’t receive the same level of insight and attention to detail from those around you.
“YOU WILL NEVER BE SUCCESSFUL IF YOU ARE NOT COACHABLE.”
The truth is that there is always someone at another level than you. Someone above you and better than you who can lift you up with their discerning insights.
They can make you better by what they know and the experiences that they have been through.
But none of that matters if you aren’t willing to be coached.
None of that will make you better if you’re not willing to learn and grow and evolve. That’s the hard truth.
You’re acting like a know-it-all and it’s costing you success.
Stop pretending like you have this idea of radical candor mastered when you’re not coachable.
You don’t even pretend to be.
You shrug off criticism as if it’s other people picking on you. You brush away the helpful insides of those who could easily elevate your game, pretending like you really care.
You don’t care. And you’re not going to be successful.
And all for one really important reason. You have chosen not to be coachable.
Being coachable is a choice. It’s a decision you make.
And sometimes it’s embarrassing to admit that you don’t have it all figured out. That what that other person is telling you is absolutely right. That you do have flaws in your game. That you could be better. That you’re not perfect.
But why not listen? Why not follow the advice of others?
Even if they’re absolutely wrong.
“YOUR WILLINGNESS TO GROW AND COACHABLE SPIRIT ALLOW YOU TO ATTRACT THE MOMENTUM THAT COMES FROM THOSE WHO HAVE ALREADY BEEN THERE AND DONE WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE.”
If you’re not where you want to be and it feels like it’s taking you way too long to get close to where you want to be, take a long look at your coachability.
When was the last time you listened to someone giving you advice where you weren’t trying to explain yourself or justify yourself or pretend like you have it all figured out.
Change that. It’s the only way you’re going to level up.